So.. has he forgot or decided to not mention or anniversary

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10 yrs today.. last two have been fecking awful.. not my doing I should add! Anyone else had similar? Do I remind him or just forget it 🤔

Maybe he thinks you’ve forgotten if you haven’t mentioned it?

Dh and I both forgot one year!
We couldn't believe it. Never since.

Maybe he does think I've forgotten, he should be trying to make an effort.. but hey ho I'm not going to remind him of that. Sorry state of affairs really.

I would have handed dh his arse. But if neither of you can be bothered and you have had a bad couple of years with him, should you still be together? Do you love him?

It sounds like this a symptom of things really not being right in your marriage. Otherwise, wouldn’t you have just said “happy anniversary” first thing rather than waiting for him.

Should he be “making an effort” for a particular reason? Has he been treating you badly?

In December 2017 I found out my hard working husband was a liar and a cheat. In April 2018 all became very clear when his GF who he'd been living a double life with decided to tell all A's he'd stop paying for their swanky apartment abroad where he had been working for 18 months and she had to move out. So yes there's been some sh*t going down. In all that time I was fed lies .. promised it was all over and been working to put things right 🙄

From your update it seems like it should have ended long ago.
Be kind to yourself today and start planning a future alone ,without him and the mess he's created.
That's way too much to get past .

To be honest I've been biding time, getting ducks in row as some would say and taking each day as it comes.. he's still oblivious and today will pass un-noticed which gives me all the answers I need. He's only ever thought of himself and I've given my all being a mum at home with two kids with sen. I'm sad, he could have really made some sort of effort but zero fecks here! Men really are absolutely the pits

Oh wow. 10 years should be a time for celebration. What a shame. You shouldn’t have to be putting up with this crap. Finish it and move on. Find somebody who truly wants you. Don’t waste another 10 years!

It doesnt sound like there is anything to celebrate.
Perhaps you were hoping he would do something so you could maybe , on some level think there was hope for your marriage or at least acknowledgement for the years you have put in/ taking him back after the cheating, but it doesnt sound like it from what you have posted.

Take charge of the situation and by that I dont mean remind him (although i see it was yesterday) I mean take care of yourself and your children. Do something nice to treat yourself and make a concrete plan to start a new life.

@Straycatblue you are very right. I little glimmer of hope would have been nice.. sadly not to be! Went to bed in a sulk as did I and was woken to him trying his luck like nothing had happened. This is usual.. I jumped out of bed and went to put the coffee on!! I stupidly thought he might redeem himself the following day.. nope nothing said or done.

I married a selfish man who thinks only of himself and his cock, and one day soon he will be very lonely.