DRAMA!

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I want a relatively hassle free life without dramas. Growing up with just females in my home it was constant drama. I grew up thinking drama was normal till I married DH and seen how his family are; no matter what is going on they will put on a happy face and be cheerful and friendly with people they can’t stand. I used to naively think it was so “two faced” and “fake” of them. I’m embarrassed of all the little dramas I used to create in my youth. I’m also embarrassed of how my family still is like a drama fountain.

I’m hitting 40 next year and want to continue my self improvement. I’m happy to say there been zero drama in past few years!

Could you guys share stories of when you’ve been around drama queens and how you’ve stopped things escalating?

I think my biggest life lesson in terms of drama has been to just agree with a drama queen. E.g. my eldest sister used to share stories of how her daughter is off the rails and when I would input how things can improve etc. She used to go ballastic! So with her I’ve learnt over the years just to keep conversations sweet and limited and not too heavy. I know might not be best method to use this approach but what else can you do.

My old flatmate was a doctor of about 35. He was so well-rounded. We were at a party once and a young woman got really drunk. She was staggering you know...falling over a bit.

One of the other attendees started acting as though the poor girl had taken an overdose or something. We all knew she'd been fine on arrival...she'd just drunk too much.

She was (the drama woman) getting too loud and hysterical...shouting "Oh my GOD she's going to BREAK something!!" etc "Oh my GOD she might have to go to HOSPITAL!"

My flatmate said calmly but loud enough for everyone to hear "Your concern is well meant I'm sure but it's misplaced. I;ll look after her"

He dissipated it all!

Growing up with just females in my home it was constant drama

hysterical bitches all round eh? Thank God you now live in the shade of the Penis of Tranquility

@fizzy - you trying to cause a drama?

Nope I actually have lovely women in my life who don’t explode and advertise their business to everyone in the world.

Drama queens also take something you say like I said about MY SISTERS and take it to apply to everyone else too to take offence. Such as this poster lol who thinks my. Moment was about ALL WOMEN

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My ex best friend was all about drama. I’d arrive at hers and she and her DH would be shouting at each other. She used to think over things I’d said and twist them into something totally untrue. I’ve just backed off. We have a level of communication now and are civil but I feel so much better that I don’t see her. Walking away from drama is my way. I’m about to do it at work and I’m absolutely dreading the fallout

Did she try to get back in contact with you? If so how did u handle this?

She didn’t. She had a tragedy and I heard and reached out to her. We now share very very occasional texts but I haven’t seen her for almost 2 years. I see on social media what she’s doing. She’s being a bit obsessive at the moment about an activity. I know she does this when she’s emotionally very unwell. I keep my distance. I care about her, I love her, she was like a sister, but I can’t go back there.

My home is drama free since i chucked out my abusive ex. Love the calm. I find practising the Buddhist principle of loving kindness to all, including yourself, helps enormously. People are up to where they are up to. Getting involved in their drama only fuels it. It can sound quite patronising and it the risk is you start feeling superior so it's important to stay connected to the true sense of it. See drama for what it is- their way of interpreting the world. Let it go. And breathe...

My friend had a huge fight with me over nothing recently. I decided I just need to cut her out as can’t take anymore rubbish. I blocked her on WhatsApp as she was sending me nasty messages. I’m hoping she will just accept it and not try to keep making amends by apologising.

I used to practice mediation at a Buddhist centre but moved so haven’t done that recently. I’m glad it’s helping you

I have married into a 'drama' family - they are so weird. At first they were nice to me but I can sense they don't like me anymore because I just disengage from their dramas. DP can see how messed up it is and loves that we are not repeating his childhood with our kids, but struggles to stay out of the dramas. He's getting better but it's taking time to rewire his brain away from it...

Yeah people who cause drama to appear to be very nice at first. That’s why I think I’ve attracted a lot of friends like this as they’re the ones that talk to you first at groups and they’re the ones that share everything so u kind of become best mates right at start!

I think over time people who seem reserved or “cold” I’ve gotten along with over time as it takes time to get to know them and they don’t drive you insane with imagined or real problems

@1WayOrAnother good in you for leaving an Abusive ex. No body needs that In Their lives

Hi I am very low drama, I dont think I've ever fallen out with anyone.

I naturally avoid loud people, people who regularly fall out with other people, people who gossip and get over excited about other people's problems, people that post personal things or insincere things on Facebook (eg my door is always open memes), people that change their stories about things, or people that are two faced.

I am an introvert though so it suits me to have a handful of very good quietish friends - I imagine it's hard if you're naturally drawn to people who like being the centre of attention etc. I am also friends with men as well as women, I think there is sometimes less drama when there is a good mix in the friendship group