Relationship Breakdown

[lucindalady]

This has taken a lot for me to do this but am hoping I can get some good advice.

My relationship with my partner hasnt been good over the last few years. I lost my brother in May 2019 to suicide. My partner and I werent talking at the time when I got the call about my brother.

He hasnt been supportive at all and even was saying he wouldnt go to funeral or travel in funeral car with me and my son because they were not speaking.

My ex husband was at the funeral and I got accused afterwards of intending to go back with him. It was all so ridiculous.

I have seriously begun to think that my partner has narcissist traits.

The relationship got so bad that I had to call the Police as he was constantly arguing with me and I felt intimidated.

I changed the locks on the house which is mine. He didnt take kindly to this and although I have tried to make an effort to continue the relationship he is constantly putting pressure on me.

I wont go in to any more detail at the moment but any help would be greatly appreciated.

U need to get out of this chick... he’s very childish. The fact he would support u wen u really needed him “as u’s weren’t talking” speaks volumes.

I know it does. Have had so much to deal with and just felt like because he wasnt the centre of attention anymore he just couldnt handle it.

He didnt like my son or my brother and said some nasty things previously. He has never been married or had children and just doesnt seem to understand that no matter what my son does I will be there for him.

Thanks for replying.

He’s a man child!! Because other people need ur love and attention he can’t handle it and it will only get worse x

It really couldnt get worse if I am totally honest. Just scared of being on my own I guess but I have been enjoying my own space and getting out and about again with friends etc. Cheers for replying x

Well there’s ur answer if it can’t get any worse and u would be genuinely happier on ur own then the only thing holding u back is ur feelings for him. I kno it will be scary but u will get there. Just take ur time ur already going thru so much.
I was in a similar situation my mum died really suddenly at 46 and I foned my partner to come c me told him I really needed his support and he vanished... went to the pub then txt me the next day saying he didn’t want to be with me anymore “it was too much”

Jeez am so sorry to hear that. I hope you are in a better place now. Thanks for your support. I will keep you updated x

I’m definitely not I have a post up looking for relationship advice too 😂

Regardless of the problems you had, the fact that he could not support you at a time like your brothers death really says it all for me. If you changed the locks does that mean he is living elsewhere now, if so maybe it will be easier to let go of a bad relationship. I think if you ask yourself things like is he good for you or your son, does his presence make you happier or your life better.

Definitely end it with him, contact the police prior and say you have concerns of him becoming violent and fear your son and your safety with him, so they will then have it on record if you have to call.

If he comes to the house, keep it locked and call police. I'd be tempted to say of he does get nasty after you end things block him on everything. Is there anyone who can come over and sit with you for a few nights? x