So after a few years of a lot of trauma and stress my husband and I are really struggling. With 3 under 7's we have struggled to maintain a relationship. With communication and connection. We have both retreated and shut down.
Recently we decided to seperate, living in the same house with the plan for him to move out.
Having this distance between us has helped us start to communicate and start to see each other for who we are not just the role we play in the family.
I've been very very down and the realisation of some deep issues I have are on the surface. And I really want to deal with them.
I have had councilling. But I think my issues formed in childhood and I'm stuck in a cycle, of self hatred/loathing, isolating myself, anxiety and eating problems. It has literally been this week that I can say this in a succinct way, and after some should searching and reading I realise I need to change some deep issues to free myself from these problems.
I'm looking to you wise community members for support, advice help. It's reading this thread this past year that has helped me get to this.
I want my children to have clear and healthy relationships with themself and I want to have a relationship with husband or someone in the future that is authentic and real.
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