There's a bit of background history which might be helpful for anyone to know. Have been with DH a long time and he's always been very sosciable and enjoys his larger. Once hes had a few he'll happily chat to anyone and everyone and is always reluctant to call it a night. It caused problems before we married because I felt he prioritized his friends and I felt neglected and we argued about it a lot.
After we got married and had our DSs he really reigned it in and only went out rarely maybe half a dozen times a year. We also go out with other couples perhaps once a month. But just lately DH has started picking up his old habits. It started with him chatting with a couple of men our local take away, who then introduced him to some other men who meet up to watch sports fixtures in a local pub. Things seem to have snowballed and for the last few months DH is heading out to the pub every other weekend. He always comes back either quite drunk or properly shit faced and is good for nothing the next day as well. I could go and join him because he always invites me to join him but I'm not much of a drinker and don't enjoy the whole pub scene anyway if I'm being honest. Also our youngest DS has just moved away to college so we have the house to ourselves again but I didn't expect to be an empty nester whose husband goes off to the pub every other weekend! I don't want this to become our new normal and it's making me feel agitated and is dragging back all the unhappy feelings from when before we were married. DH reassures me he loves me very much but he just likes a change of scene a couple of times a month. I suspect I'm being unfair aren't I, but can't seem to rationalise it.