I am trying to plan to leave my long term partner but don’t have a lot of money. I’ve received a bit of a slating from some posters on another thread saying that as he doesn’t hit me, I should stay with him for the sake of the children and I’m being selfish considering taking my children away from their nice house and secure life when I’m not in actual danger.
I’ll run through the salient points as quickly as I can to prevent a too long post:
No sex life (at his insistence)
Porn addiction (but he doesn’t do it anymore, apparently)
Messages to prostitutes (proven and on multiple occasions spanning years)
Use of prostitutes (strenuously denied, no proof but who only messages them trying to arrange sex and doesn’t actually use them?)
Moody, grumpy
Massive selfish manchild who does bugger all around the house
Sees the children as my job but ‘helps’ with some things
No shared interests or time spent together, we just live under the same roof
No affection
Controlling? Questionable but is always asking who I’m texting etc even though I never know where he is or what he’s doing he wants to know the ins and outs of everything I do and why
Two lots of couples counselling he attended just long enough to placate me then never bothered with again
Total lack of communication or willingness to change anything despite constant empty promises to change
These are the ones off the top of my head, I’m sure there’s more.
I have taken my time, planned, tried to save what little I can and I’m getting to the point where I just don’t want to be here anymore. So, am I being selfish for wanting to be on my own, even if it means financial struggles? Because apparently, if a man doesn’t actually hit you, you should just put up with it 