Can you "outgrow" a relationship?

[BlueEyedFloozy]

We've been together 20 years - since high school, married with 2 kids age 13 and 6.

Recently been feeling quite unhappy, not for the first time but we've managed to work through it. This time though o can't help but think that we've matured and grown out of each other if that's possible.

More so me than him I think, he's always been quite immature and not great with money and that's a big issue for me now. Tried speaking to him about it and he just can't see why it's a problem all of a sudden. In all honesty, I don't know myself I just know that it is.

Has this happened to anyone else? Not really sure what I'm looking for, just stories of how people deal with it I guess?

I met my ex at 20 , we were together for 11 years (not as long as you but a long time) we have 2 children together 12 and 6. We definitely outgrew each other. He wanted some things , i wanted others. We have different work ethics and ways to approach life . we held on for the kids for many years although deep down i think we knew.. ended up splittin up (hardest thing i ever did as i literally ended up homeless and struggling alone with 2 very young children ,a full time job and no family or friends around. Dont regret anythin for one second and on hindsight should have done it sooner I was not able to be me 100% . I was massively just making do for the sake of the family unit . I found more freedom and happiness within myself and my life after settling into single life. He did too. Although it was very painful for both of us. Children took it on their stride and were and are content and happy and loved by both parents. Give yourself time to see if this feeling is fleeting or here to stay. Sometimeas we just "know" something is not quite right. If you do, trust ur gut, cut your loses. If you're in doubt, research and get advise on how to improve your relationship but if he is not on board and doesnt see the issues, its gonna be difficult as you will always be compromising. We only live once. Dont waste it.