Good friend or not?

[Mrshappy2019]

I am currently separated from my husband and it’s been so so between us up to now. There’s been no infidelity involved and we’ve just grown apart (he is a first class bellend though 🤭😊) anyway one of my friends told me this week that some time last year he sent her a nude picture on snapchat, she challenged him and he said he’d done it accidentally and not to tell me. She said she never mentioned it as didn’t wanna cause grief but thinks now we’re apart I should know. I’m not upset or anything but it makes me wonder if he’d sent himself like that to anyone else and should she have told me 🤔

Oooooh is it definitely him? I think she’s a good friend OP

Clearly something he has done before who has nude snaps handy to send?

Yuk. What a slime ball. Knowing this I wouldn’t be so sure that there’s not been any infidelity. Definitely puts the nail in his coffin, surely? Time to move separated to divorced?

It’s him alright. Face on it and everything 😳

What an absolute plonker.

Fishing for an affair while with you - and with one of your mates.

Also his excuse to her - what bullshit; so who was he sending a naked pic of himself to if it went to her "by accident"?

If it's another woman (though v unlikely was accidental) then he was cheating or trying to cheat.

No doubt if ever challenged he'll say it was to you or done bullshit - but a. Did you ever do that sort of thing? And b. He naturally would've mentioned to you at the time and discussed the "mistake" and his excruciating embarrassment, mind if which he appears to have done.

*none of which

No, he never sent them pics to me as I’d think it was ridiculous 😩😂 should I say something to him or just leave it now in the past

I wouldn't be able to resist saying something!

One of my close friends DH came on to me one drunken night. I'd been burned before by telling my friend in a similar situation (he denied it and she was hysterical and I ended up having to go to her and tell her I must have imagined it just to make all the drama stop).

I didn't want to risk the friendship and cause huge drama for what I assumed was a stupid drunken mistake. He then left her for someone ten years younger six months later, made me regret keeping it to myself! Still haven't told her though, why increase her upset at this stage.

should I say something to him or just leave it now in the past

Can't see it being a very pleasant, positive discussion. At least you know now that you're doing absolutely the right thing and that he was a sleaze and (attempted) cheat - who didn't even care about the implications of coming onto one of your friends.

Who's divorcing who or have you even broached that yet? If you divorce him you could include it unreasonable behaviour I suppose (though he'll keep saying it was a mistake).

Anyway you are soooo well rid of that one.

I think she probably kept the photo so she could show it to you at some point. She probably also didn't tell you after a lot of thought about it.

I'm going for good friend with a difficult dilemma.

Your friend, in my opinion did the right thing, thought he made a genuine mistake and left it at that. But she remembered, had kept the photo, just in case be.... good friend, arsehole husband xx your well rid of him. What a prick,OVER inflated so in love with his MEMBER. Move on my lovie your worth so much more xxx (my first post, long time browser) 🙏

She did well to keep it all that time! Probably despised it.

Were you still with him when it was sent?

Yeah we were still together, it was sent before Christmas last year. She just said she didn’t know whether to tell me or not. She told her hubby who’d kept quiet about it too

I can understand why she didn't say until now.

He clearly intended it to be for her but didn't get the reaction he was hoping for so backtracked and said it was for someone else (how ridiculous! Why not say it was for you!)
The only person he should've been intending those kinds of pics for is you.

I could only imagine how mortifying it would be to genuinely accidentally send a pic like that to your wife's friend.

He's an ass & has put you both in a horrible position. She's told her husband about it so she obviously disapproves & she's told you when she's felt she can.

I'd forward the picture to him and let him squirm

I would send it to him and let him stew. If he sent it to more than one then he will be worried where you got it from!

I probably won’t mention it but I did show it my sister 🤭😂

should I say something to him or just leave it now in the past

Why would you even want to be with a man like that?! Sending dick pics to your friend?!

Fuck him off. You are so much more worth more than that!

I agree with forwarding pic. Do you have dcs together?

I’ll keep it in case he ever gives me shit. I have a male friend I talk to and he’s been good to me since we split. He kinda kissed me last night and I kinda liked it so if anything ever comes of this no doubt he’ll pull his face 😬🙄