Help me deal with tired dh with newborn baby

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Looking for advice on how to handle this situation please.

Dh and I have a newborn ds, also an older dd. Dh has trouble sleeping generally. I'm up every 2-3 hours feeding baby (ebf) and dh gets up to do night time nappies when i wake him (he's on paternity leave at the moment, I'll probably take on most night jobs in the week once he's back at work).

The issue is that he keeps telling me how tired and run down he feels. Last night he couldn't get to sleep from 12-3ish, not because of the baby (we were sleeping most of that time), but he was worrying about stuff. I understand it's shit when you can't sleep, but am struggling to muster much sympathy given I'm feeding on demand and most of the time he is asleep through those feeds. I'm also recovering from a c section so not fully back to normal.

So how do i not be a total bitch by telling him how much less sleep i'm getting and how i'm not actually complaining about it! I feel like he needs to be telling someone other than me.. how would you respond?

He's being better since i told him i had very little capacity for sympathy at the moment given I'm also tired but just not complaining about it!

But in a bid to get out for a run first thing he was rushing me and dd to get to preschool, saying "it's good for me and therefore everyone that i get my exercise", which made me laugh..

My mum seems to have caught the bug. She arrived off the train (she lives 2 hours away) to help me with the kids and the first thing she did was to tell me how tired she is, and suggested she might have a nap this afternoon 😂 i diplomatically asked her to hold the baby while i do the housework! Seriously people, know your audience..

In two hours I've vacuumed the house, tidied the kitchen, done a load of laundry and made dinner for dd. Feeling good!

You are superwoman! Annoyed for you that your mum got to hold the baby while you did the housework?! Cheers mum!

I'm a bit late to the thread but was very frustrated with people who kept pressing the point about changing the nappy at the same time as the feed. What would be the point as you'd have to change it again anyway? The baby doesn't conveniently poo as soon as he's fed, he needs to digest it first 🤷‍♀️