The one that got away, do you have one?

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Mine was my 'childhood sweetheart' together through our teens, he joined the services and moved away, we stayed in touch throughout the years. We connected again romantically in our mid 20's but the timing was terrible, I had not long left a violent relationship. He asked me to marry him and I said no because I needed to be by myself.

My intentions were good but it hurt him as I don't think he totally understood my reasoning.

We're old friends now and i have him on SM, no bad feelings between us. I think we'll always care for one another in some way but anything 'more' is long gone.

He has recently gone public with his new girlfriend and they look so happy, she's a stunning woman and I haven't seen him so happy in years.

Seeing this is bitter sweet because on one hand I'm genuinely pleased he has found somebody good for him and wish them nothing but the best as a couple, but I can't help but feel a bit sad and wish I had given him a different answer those years ago.

I've had to quietly unfollow (not unfriend) him so I don't keep seeing pictures of the pair of them.

I have a family of my own so I wouldn't dream of letting him know how I feel, let alone betraying my OH, but it's just feelings isn't it.

Do you have a 'one who got away'?

In uni I had a huge crush on a friend of a friend. I didn't know him that well but he was just a strikingly lovely person. I was quite obsessed with him actually. I think there's a possibility he liked me too, but we very rarely saw each other. Plus I was in a relationship. By the time I had split with my boyfriend, he had a girlfriend. We exchanged a few messages over a couple of years after uni but never really met up properly. He's happily married now with two kids and I guess we just weren't meant to be. I still think about him though and wonder if I'd been a bit bolder back in the day whether anything would have come of it.

Yes, he was perfect in so many ways that were important to me. I really thought we'd get married but it doesn't seem meant to be. I still think about him occasionally.

Yep, I do. He was someone I used to work with when I was in my early 20s.

Yes, I was 19 and he was 24. I've never loved anyone more. I think he was the one. He's married with children now and I think about him all the time and always wonder what could've been. I get scared that I'll never love anyone as much as I loved him.

University boyfriend. I was a cow to him. He wasn't amazing looking but he had an amazing mind and we just got each other. Think about him a lot but haven't ever seen him until last week. Sat with him on a train and chatted for a two hour journey. He is married with kids and I am divorced with kids. He said to me 'I suppose our uni relationship had run its course'. I paused and looked at him. And he said ' oh no. It hadn't, had it?' His stop was five mins later. I've since returned to where I live many hundreds of miles away.

We were mainly platonic. I had a bit of a crush but it wasn't returned and we remained good friends.

I recently found out he calls me the one that got away. We are still in contact but I'm happily married with two kids and he is very much living a bachelor lifestyle and loving life.

I had the biggest crush on my one that got away when I was 16, I met him on my college course and I was to scared to tell him how I felt, I'm sure he felt the same way. He left after a year and I didn't see him around. Then came Facebook and he was friends with someone I knew so I messaged him and we talked for a bit but he was with someone else at the time and then they had a baby so I let the idea of him go. I moved on with my life and got married and had a ds. I sometimes check his Facebook out to see what hes upto.

I have a 'one that could be' I guess.
My best friend. I was instantly attracted to him (it would be impossible not be, he's gorgeous!)
We clicked instantly, and it's obvious we have something special.
It took me a little while to realise I felt more than just friendship towards him. When we met I was still trying to get over a terrible time in my life, and most of my emotional energy went towards that.
It wasn't until someone made a comment about the 'huge sexual tension' between us and other comments made (such as 'like an old married couple') that it suddenly hit me. I was so stuck in my past, I couldn't see what was right under my nose!
I'm pretty sure he feels something towards me too. But right now, I can't see it being anymore than it is. Circumstances won't allow, and I wouldn't want to risk losing what we do have, if my feelings are not returned to the same degree.

Mine is the best friend of a guy I dated. He suggested he liked me but for some reason I really liked the guy, even though he turned out to be a manipulative, abusive twat.
It didn't work out with him thank god but guy that got away has been in a relationship since March. I know his girlfriend and she's a nice lady, i'm pleased for them.
But if he were single and I hadn't been involved with his friend, 100%. He's a lovely guy and very emotionally intelligent and charming.

Oh yes, in a job about 25 years ago, there was someone and he was SO beautiful, I can't tell you. He was warm, intelligent, witty, kind and and and he paid attention to dumpy old me. I was smitten. We were never official, but no-one ever played the game like he did - he wrote charming letters to me, made me feel gorgeous.

Then I got a job elsewhere. We saw each other for a while and then one day he emailed me out of the blue to say he was with someone else. I tried to fight for him, but they eventually got married. I went NC. It was that or become a carrot boiler (couldn't do that to a bunny).

I bumped into him one morning on the train. Reader, I would love to say that he aged badly and looked like a troll. He didn't. He's still as beautiful as ever. They're still together, no DC. I'm single.

But in the years apart, there wasn't a day I didn't think of him. I even dreamed about him on occasion, he would always be just out of reach.

He still is.