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Why do I feel so sad?

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UnsureMama593 · 17/10/2019 02:38

Left my somewhat controlling ex earlier this month, moved out of what was the family home and back in with my mother with our DS. Just had a long winded conversation with him about our relationship as he no longer wants to be in DS life and in the end has decided he wants nothing to do with me either. We were together for 7 years, on and off majorly for the last 2 but I loved him dearly or thought it was love. I have come to realise that he is emotionally abusive and I am ultimately better off without him so why oh why do I feel so sad?! :'(

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BillHadersNewWife · 17/10/2019 04:47

What?? He's decided he doesn't want to be part of his SON'S life? WHat a complete and utter shit.

Of course you feel sad! If he was controlling to you, you're probably also traumatised in your own right as well as sad for your son.

I think you need counselling OP. He's horrible! How old is your son?

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UnsureMama593 · 17/10/2019 07:15

@BillHadersNewWife he's 5!!!! He hasn't seen or spoken to him since we moved out.
My son seems fine and when I ask him if he misses his dad or wants to see him he says no, but I just worry he about what is going on inside that little brain of his.
I feel like my own brain needs rewiring not just counselling. I have woken up this morning feeling very spaced out Confused

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Dontforgetyourbrolly · 17/10/2019 07:19

It's another form of control , he knows this will hurt you. ( of course it does it's horrible )
I'd take him at his word and do what needs to be done legally to remove any rights he has over ds life.
I would however be chasing him for payments.
I'd block him or even change your number.
What a disgusting man

Dontforgetyourbrolly · 17/10/2019 07:20

Your son will be fine - you have actually done him a huge service by taking him away from that man. He's not a good role model x

richteasandcheese · 17/10/2019 07:38

I'm separating as well and despite it being what I want, I'm still desperately sad. What sort of man walks away from their child.....he is doing you a favour

RaininSummer · 17/10/2019 07:56

Vile man. Make sure he doesn't change his mind later and screw with your son's head.

Dontforgetyourbrolly · 17/10/2019 08:57

I separated from a man like this also and I felt sad for a long time , but it was still the right thing to do OP.

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