I feel awful. Just for background I'm in a long term relationship for the last 7 years, never cheated. I've also never cheated on any previous partners no matter how much of an arsehole they were or if they had cheated on me. I really disapprove of cheating.
However I seem have developed a ridiculous crush on a man at work. He's lovely, intelligent, helpful, and a loving husband and father. He's about 10 years older than myself. I have reflected on this and I think it's come about mainly because he sort of reminds me of my own DP except older without all the things that are causing me to question our relationship. DP doesn't seem to want to commit to any sort of plan for children (when asked if he would consider ttc now or near future , met with a definite no, however no idea if he would consider them in 1-2 years time or 10 years time - I'm suspected he'd rather never have children but won't admit it) , despite the length of the relationship and the fact we are late 20s, he seems to be completely lacking in career asperations, I'm happy with him not having a particularly well paid job, but it's not stable and he can't even say he enjoys it, he also doesn't try to actively try to spend quality time with me, he seems content with how life is and no intention of changing any of this. Am I wrong to just want more? I feel like we have started to grow apart the last year especially, I'm ready to grow up and move forward in life and he just seems to want to stall as much as possible. I feel like this crush on another man is a symptom of my unhappiness with my relationship. I just wish I could get some of this other man's qualities and inject them into my DP.
Maybe we've outgrown each other? I don't know, I just feel guilty at the moment for feeling this way, surely a 7 year relationship is worth fighting for? Or maybe its time to call it a day, are we just going to drag this relationship out because we're comfortable?