For the record, I am a Senior Citizen whose intimate life has been blighted, I believe, by beliefs inculcated in me after my Dad died when I was eleven.
Mum used to tell me that sex was dirty, something she had to because it was her duty as a married woman. It was clear that for Mum, it was just an imposition. This is not a troll thing, but my Dad, a gentle, loving Christian person, who worked as a funeral undertaker, and I got the message from Mum that "he wanted "it" most after he had come home from attending to someone's dead body.
I am convinced that this has stuck with me in the sense that sexual love was just some kind of male perversion, to the detriment of my relationship with my wonderful, loving wife of fifty years. Can anyone offer any insights?