Hey everyone hope everyone is having a good Wednesday. This is my first post here and wanted advice and a place to vent. Where do I start maybe I HATE MY IN-LAWS.? I have been married for 8 years and have 2 wonderful children. However, over the years I have had problems with my in laws and my mother in law been the craziest woman I have ever met. Over the years she has spread rumours about me how her son never loved me and got married to me because I had his child, she has stated that he leaves me because my husband used to pay all the bills and helps his mother out financially but once we got married I started taking charge in my income and giving money for no reason was something I stopped. My brother in law is married to a girl that I went to the same school we never had any problems growing up and always have been respectful of each other. However, she is now the most evil person i have met, she has called the police on me made fake reports, also made fake reports to social services threw a brick threw my living room window at the early hours of the morning, I know I know it sounds so crazy. I have reported everything to the police and they could not proof anything and it was my words against hers. Initially I had a meeting with this woman and asked where this hatred is coming from (this was before she did all the crazy stuff she would do to me) and she stated “you said all these horrid things about me to the in-laws” which was a complete and utter lie.
As the years progressed I kept my distance from them all. However, my husband would say can I take the kids to my family and I always said yes because that’s their family at the end of the day. However, this year as been the most eye opening year I knew they never liked me but I never knew how much hate they had towards me. This is a long story but I’m trying to keep it as short as possible. (Sorry)
Couple of months ago my other brother in law was getting married and everyone was invited I however was not given that invitation and I didn’t even want to go because my brother in law and his witch of a wife would be there and I didn’t want to ruin my other brothers wedding or have my kids see me acting not in a motherly mature manner. I said to my mother in law I would not attend nor will I feel safe of my children did without me even though my husband was going and I trust him with the kids but I just felt like I needed to be there especially if the woman who calls social on my kids for reason will be there. Anyways my mother in law was angry that I didn’t let my kids go and my husband suggested that him and his brother would come and bring the kids and the wives could stay at home because she is also rude to my husband and calls him names she is a nightmare but as man he ignores it all together. My mother in law said no and that she was coming. Long story short my husband when alone and he was made to feel alienated him and his brothe didn’t even speak because of her and she made it clear she doesn’t want him around her kids which are his nieces. The wedding was outside London and they all stayed in a hotel together and on the last day of checkout she made remarks at him calling him names as he was getting in his car. He ignored it. 3 weeks later she messages me saying how my husband couldn’t keep his eyes of her and I’m this and that all the names under the sun. I usually ignore her but I responded calling her names and telling her she is crazy I know childish but I lost it. In return she told me so many things to hurt my feelings that I shared with my mother in law in confidence she also stated how my mother in law digs for information about our home life by asking my 5 year older of son. I asked my son if this is true and he said “yes mummy granny always ask are you ok, what makes me happy and what makes me sad” 1 week later I got a social services call that someone made a anonymous call that I leave my kids outside I’m a bad parent. I know it was from my evil sister in law because she told me she would do something horrid to me and this is what she always does. I’m not worried about the social because I informed the police and working with the social so they can see this is a malicious call. However I can’t help but feel soooooo angry I want to do the same to her but my moral concern compass won’t allow me to waste social services time. My husband in return has seen his famoky for what it is worth and told them they are not allowed anywhere near me or our kids.
However, I can’t help but feel hurt I get they don’t like me but to also hate their own flesh and blood my kids is beyond me. How can a grandmother do this? I even asked her to talk to the police because she knows how crazy and obsessed this sister in law is with me but she states she doesn’t to police in her life and that she is crazy and I should leave it all to god.
Sometimes I think I should not of responded because that made her angry and in return called social services on me for the third time. However, the other times she called social services was because she saw pictures of me on holiday without my kids who was looked after by my wonderful mother and told social services I’m always going out and going on holidays and leaving my kids. Which they closed the case quick once I gave proof of everything. It’s like I can’t live my life I deleted my social media accounts because she makes fake accounts to tell me all the things the in laws have said about me or what she knows .
I’m sorry I’m just waffling on now. I hope I make sense. If you got to this part thanking you for listening and if you reply I really appreciate your responses.