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Why did he contact me again?

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coffeechoc · 15/10/2019 21:49

15 months ago I had a holiday romance. It was amazing. All the amazing feelings i hadn't felt in years and we clicked. I really believe he is 'the one' even though I don't believe in that! We met as I sat next to him on the plane on an 11 hour flight. He is from the country where i was on holiday.
We wont be together due to distance however we did keep in contact in a friendly way. Earlier this year I had an out of the blue message he didnt want to lead me on across across continents. It came as a bit of a shock as I thought we were maintaining a friendship, however I accepted this and we both wished each other well.
Fast forward 3 months and he contacted me. I said I was surprised to hear from him and assumed he met someone. He admitted he did. Fine, I expected it. However they were on a break and he wanted to apologise for the holiday romance and felt he was disrespecting women Confused although he doesnt regret it. He said he was on a break with new woman. I checked in on him a few days later as he sounded really low and he apologised for contacting me and then blocked me on social media. No idea what it was all about. I really wish he hadn't contacted me as it has stirred up feelings. Just wondering why he did? Sad

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irrate · 15/10/2019 22:23

Hi OP, he is testing the water to see if you will take the bait.

Obviously hasn't worked out with the other woman so is trying to get back with you till something better comes along.

Sorry if this hurts your feelings but having been there and had it done on me twice it's not nice when guys do this.

I would delete his number, put it down to a nice holiday romance and don't give him another thought, because if you do you will start imagining all the romantic get togethers that might happen and you will end up heartbroken.

Trust me there are plenty more fish in the sea that will treat you better.

coffeechoc · 15/10/2019 22:30

It couldn't happen, he is across the other side of the world 😕 shame as I could have fallen for him and we were such a good match. Wish he had left it. Feels unfair of him to contact me and I maybe was hoping he was thinking about us and what could have been

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kalinkafoxtrot45 · 15/10/2019 22:32

It was unfair of him. Best to block him and move on, that will stop him getting back in touch in the future.

Pipandmum · 15/10/2019 22:33

He was at a low point and thought he’d check on you see if you were still into him. It was pointless but there you go - people are selfish.

One1 · 16/10/2019 13:28

He was obviously affected by this and had a moment of weakness. Just because it was easy for you to carry in as friends it doesn’t mean it was for him as well. He may contact you again when you least expect it.

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