Is this cheating?

[ohfucksake]

OH has been groping and caressing the breasts and arse of his ex wife.

I feel gutted.

Classy bastard. This is at hand overs of their children too. The ones I've been helping bring up and being the amicable fucking coparent who's civil to the ex wife. I'm a mug and I'm hurting.

I'm sorry you're going through this OP. How did you find out? Is the source trustworthy?

Fucking slimy bastard. Sorry OP, I can only imagine how you're feeling

Yes definitely cheating!like pp how did you find out?

If that’s the facts then yes,but you know that 💐

Yes absolutely there's no doubt.

Absolutely no doubt what so ever.

He recorded their conversation on his phone to protect himself against any allegations as she threatened to tell social services untrue things to suspend contact and she comes right out and says it on there - asks him if I know that he goes there and asks her for sex and Carresses her breasts etc. He doesn't deny it on the recording. Stupid twat. It syncs to our iPad at home. I've played the whole thing. It's mentioned a few times. He never denies it. I've confronted him. He wants to know if I want to kick him out. We have a small baby. I'm flirting between sobs and anger

It's most definitely cheating.
Horrible twat!

Yes. He sounds odious. Get shot of him and start a new life for you and your DC.

I'm sorry OP. It must be awful for you.
It doesn't matter if you call it cheating or not. It's unacceptable behaviour that would cross my line.

This is my new fucking life. I can't believe it. I genuinely didn't think he was like that. He's been such a rock to me the last few years. I can't afford the house on my own. Fuck sake. Fuck

Yes, he has cheated. You must be devastated. While you have been a devoted partner, mother and step-mother, he has been making a fool of you by pawing all over his ex.

Tell him to leave. He needs to experience a serious consequence for abusing your trust and treating you with utter contempt.

I'm so sorry op he's a twat

I feel utterly broken.

Definitely its cheating

So sorry OP, he's fucking grim- how pathetic. Get your fighting gloves on - I assume you are unmarried? What are your options re: the house? I'd let yourself have a cry, put a time limit on it, have a cup of tea and have a think about next steps

Haven't slept. Don't know how to progress from here. He says sorry. Has asked me to work through this.

Does she want this contact? Hard to tell from what you have said. If yes - cheating- if no - sexual assault. Either way he is a disgrace.

What @Cuddling57 said.

Whether it's defined as 'cheating' or not is wholly irrelevant. It's totally inappropriate behaviour, completely disrespectful to you, his children, and his ex-wife, and you've every right to feel exactly how you want about it and act accordingly.

Have a glass of wine and get rid of his slimey ass. Fuck me if my partner did that to me I'd have gone on a rampage, you're doing well to keep your composure so far - if you need to cry, cry!! You'll get through it, we're women, somehow we manage to get through this shit, concentrate on your baby. 💖

Of course it's cheating. You should break up with him IMO.

Not just cheating but a sex pest too! I would reconsider if the social services allegations were as false as he claims
Sorry but get rid ASAP

He wants to know if I want to kick him out
Hell yes you do.
Even if it's just for a week to get your head straight OP.
You need some space.

Is she just allowing this groping or does she say or do anything to stop it?

He is totally vile. Still trying to shag the Ex
He'd be out that door with my boot up his arse to help him on his way out!
There's no way to get past this.
It's really really overstepping all boundaries.
How you could even have him touch you again is beyond me!
ICK ICK ICK ICK ICK!!!!!!!!!
Sleazy, creepy slime-ball.

HE wants YOU to work through it???? Fucking hell. He doesn't get to WANT anything from you. Fuck him out as a pp says. Get some space to think. Get some support.

Yeah I bet he's fucking sorry. Sorry you've got proof that he's a sleazy cheating cunt.

Sorry OP but yes this is cheating. He doesnt sound nice at all. Taking advantage of you both and then secretly recording her. Kick him to the kerb, it'll hurt much less in the long term than trying to make a go of it with someone you know know is a sleazy cheat.

Pack his stuff and dump it on her doorstep.
Ring cms today.

Ugh. I would speak to her about it, too. It doesn't sound consensual, does it?