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chlojoe9 · 15/10/2019 20:03

Hello basically my child’s father had been doing drugs behind my back and lost his head and started to be violent towards me he does have adhd he had never physically touched me untill a week after we had split up I told my hv and I started to get a injunction I rang ss on two occasions because he said he was in contact with them when he wasn’t.ss told me they aren’t taking any action at this time so I stopped my little girl from seeing him but it affected her a lot. So I decided instead of getting a injunction I got a undertaking from the court as he is taking appropriate steps to changing his life he is attending drug meeting and getting on medication for adhd I’m just scared that if I let him see my little girl social will take my child away I haven’t yet told my hv that I have had the undertaking I’m really scared (no hate please)

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DonKeyshot · 15/10/2019 22:07

How old is your dd, how often does she see her df? Is this contact supervised by you/a third party or does it take place in a contact centre?

As SS aren't taking any action I can't see that any harm will come from telling your HV that you have obtained an undertaking from 'the court'* as you've been a more than responsible parent in obtaining this order.

*Is 'the court' one in which he is appearing/or has appeared due to a criminal charge or charges? If so, does the reason he's appeared in court have anything to do with the violence he perpetrated against you or violence he committed on another occasion, or has he been held accountable in law for a drugs offence?

chlojoe9 · 15/10/2019 23:15

Hello thankyou for replying she was having no contact with her father but she's seen him twice since I got the undertaking from the court. With regards to the ss sorry I forgot to mention I rang them when we first split up because he came round to my house kicking off and I had to ring the police but the police didn't do anything just warned him not to come round again after all this that's when I decided to ring woman's aid and they put me in touch to get a injunction but I got a undertaking I haven't told my hv or ss yet

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DonKeyshot · 15/10/2019 23:53

When did you get the undertaking from the court and are you saying that since that date you have allowed your ex to come to your home to see his dd? If so, how long did he stay and how old is your dd?

Can you please reveal how you were able to obtain an undertaking from the court?

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