Should I take him back?

[Mellisax1]

Have been back in contact with my ex after 4 months silence he seems to have changed is taking responsibility for his behaviour he asked to visit the other day and couldn’t make it due to family commitments a just don’t know if he’s playing little games according to friends he’s been fine the full break up telling people he’s got himself back yet blowing my fone up with apologise he hasn’t arranged another day to talk so I don’t know

Why did you split up the 1st time?
What behaviour did he need to change?
I don't think anyone here can advise without that info.
Other than to say - He's an ex for a reason.
Move forward - not backwards.

He was emotionally abusive his family hated me ect just lots of drama that’s he’s admitting is his fault now but I just don’t know

You've had a lucky escape - don't contact him, block him.

Definitely not

Nope - emotionally abusive men do NOT change. Certainly not in 4 months.
What work has done on himself to improve his abuse?
Has he had some anger management?
Course for abusive assholes (they do exist)?
I doubt it.
He is toxic and abusive and so are his family.
Don't listen to his bullshit and manipulation.
Let him stay in the past.
That is where he belongs!!!!

Leopards do not change their spots! Keep him in the past - you’ve already started to move on so keep going!

A feel he’s manipulating me with what’s he’s saying keeps bringing up the good times it’s been a really hard 4 months don’t want to end up Ill with the relationship again think it is best I just cut him off

Don't go back there! Yes he's manipulating you, block him and ignore.

You're 4 months in, you have come through the worst of the break up, the hardest days and weeks are behind you. Why oh why would you want to put yourself through it all again. A happy fresh start followed by abuse creeping in, then his family piping up with how he was happier when he'd left you, then the abuse becomes more regular and before you realise what's happened you are back to square 1, desperate to escape again but unsure if it's the right thing.

Eventually you'll leave again and have to go through the awful first few days and weeks, wondering if you should have left again, feeling lonely and blaming yourself.

Nah, don't do it to yourself, you don't deserve it.

Don't be an idiot. Abusers never change.

Breaking up and then making promises of change to get you back is part of the abuser's repertoire. He gets a kick out of feeling powerful by basically being able to treat you as badly as he likes but still be able to talk you back.

He will still be abusive, this is still abuse. Don't do it to yourself.

Get yourself on the Freedom Programme and stay the hell away from this man. Www.freedomprogramme.co.uk