Communication with Ex

[Prawnsma32]

I've been separated from my ex partner since May 2019. We have two young children together (8 & 5) and we currently co-parent and have an agreement in place between ourselves for the children.

I currently feel as though I am at my wits end as he is continuing to be extremely difficult where communication is concerned. I only text/call him when something necessary crops up regarding the children. It's getting to the point where I will text about parents evening or school photos and I will be completely ignored. When I have challenged him about this he has threatened to get a restraining order against me and to stop having the children until this is cleared via mediation. My view is we have an agreement in place already so why is mediation necessary? He says I don't have the right to contact him just because I am the Children's mother. All I want is to remain civil for the sake of the children and to contact him when it's necessary but I am upset by the way he feels it's ok to speak to me. We have both moved on and are in new relationships so I don't get the issue.

Will mediation help with us already having an agreement in place? Has anyone been through similar?

I wouldn't contact him

He Can find out those sorts of things through school

If he doesn't your kids will remember who was at parents evening for years to come

Stop communicating with him regarding the DC.
He clearly doesn't give a shit and doesn't want to know.
He's made that perfectly clear.
Just contact regarding visitation or access and nothing more.
He's a prick, but you already know this.
He doesn't want to know so just don't tell him.
Let him contact you from you now on.
No more chasing. No more texting from you!
When he starts complaining about that then you can have your say on the matter.
Until then - ignore the vile man.

Stop “challenging” him. Send the information text then if he ignores you, he ignores you. Keep the sent texts as proof you text him if he tries to accuse you of withholding information. Other than that don’t give him no mind.

Did I read that right, you split up in May and you both have new relationships already??

Absolutely minimise any communications to essentials. Tell school to inform him directly and he can be rude to them if he wants. If he doesn’t want photos or to attend parents evening that’s his choice. If he doesn’t want to see the children you can’t make him. Just leave him to do his thing and be a great mum.

Yeah stop contacting him about things like parents evenings. I’d let him know it’s taking place on x day at x time but I wouldn’t chase him up to see if he is coming or not. If he wants to miss out then let him do it off his own back, your kids will see it for themselves soon.

Shame though, I understand we’re you're coming from that you want him to be involved and be civil for the kids sake but if he isn’t going to put effort in then I’d leave him to his own devices