Advice about ex?

[ExOrNot]

We split up about 3.5 months ago. Not really had much contact since. I asked him once if we could meet up to talk, he said no so I left it.

He text me a couple of times last week. Wednesday he sent a text saying have you been ok and we ended up chatting a bit. Friday I got another text saying hey are you ok? We sent a few texts back and forth about what we’d been up to that day.

Not heard anything else from him. Realise it’s only been a few days! So do I wait and see if he texts again? Or text him? What would I say if I did?

I would like to get back together with him if that was an option but don’t want to be too keen incase he’s just wanting to be friends! We were friends for about a year before we ended up getting together if that makes a difference?

I assume he finished it? He is probably feeling guilty and just checking up on you. I would not contact him at all now. The relationship is over for now. If he wanted you back you would know about it. Leave him be. If he wants you he knows how to find you.

Why did you split up?

This might sound harsh so sorry but he’s probably just checking to see if there’s a chance he can come get what he wants when he wants and buzz off again. He’s not working remotely hard enough to try to get you back and if he wanted you back he would be doing all he could not a few messages.

He might just miss you as a friend- but ask yourself why now? Also do you even know why you split in the first place- he’s not much of a friend if he wouldn’t even talk to you about it is he?

Let go and move forwards. Holding on will only lead you to further heartbreak

Don't chase him OP. Think about whether it's good for you to hear from him or whether you should block him to make further contact.

IMO- if it was him that texted last, you can text himback whenever. If you texted last, wait for him to text.

This is a task my therapist set me once. It helps you realise how interested someone is in you, and also stops you overwhelming people or getting too demoralised if someon doesn't text back.

Let him chase you!
Best wishes xx

Thanks everyone. I don’t mind hearing the harsh truth! Helps stop me getting too carried away thinking of a big romantic reunion

You’re right he’s probably just checking up but not really interested in getting back together. He hasn’t said anything to suggest that’s what he wants.

@Interestedwoman the last message was from him. I think I’ll leave texting him though and see if he gets back in touch, if not I’ll leave it.