Do you have to be full of adventure to have a relationship these days ?

[French8312]

I like to think I am interesting, but I am feeling insecure at the moment. The guy I was seeing 'chose' a nomadic girl over me, who has been to virtually every continent in the world, done every extreme sport going, and who travels all over the world for months at a time.

I have lived abroad a few years in 2 European countries for work. Ive been to several countries in Europe, but never to anywhere like the US or Australia, never done the whole backpacker thing

I'm very sporty, and I view myself as creative in that I enjoy drawing, music, writing stories and can play instruments, and speak other languages.
I have a rewarding job, and dont earn a massive salary but I do what I can with my wage.

I feel that I am a kind person, with a good sense of humour and I am intelligent. I just feel like guys want someone who's very 'out there', full of adventure, spontaneous and full of life.

I enjoy travelling to new places, but I like going to a hotel or similar . I am not going to live in a hostel off the beaten track of La Paz for 6 months.

Ive not yet had the finances to do a worldwide trip, but I know i'm more fortunate than others have been to have even been abroad.

Just feel like i'm maybe not very exciting to men, and they want that. Should I work on myself, or am i just being very insecure ? Thanks

You definitely will meet someone! Just maybe eliminate those emphasising those kind of adventures in their profiles/messages (along with photos with cars/fish/tigers/wedding rings/gimp suits) and focus more on those who emphasise the key things you like - maybe literature/film/music/food/dogs. I met mine on tinder, and he is a well read, music loving, non-explorer which suits me very well as I’ve done my far flung wandering for now. Good luck!

OP, you could be well travelled, cook like a Michelin star chef, be super loquacious, have pecs and give fellatio like a pornstar but if theres no connection then theres no connection. You'll find someone else and this guy will become a distant memory.

I'd say that is a 'flashy,' kind of boastful girl.

You don't sound boring at all.

Those sort of girls I think men get sick of fairly quickly- those girls probably go on about themselves and their exploits a lot. I had a friend who was a 'yoga teacher' and travelled a lot (due to various inheritances.) She could never keep a man for some reason- people would be physically attracted to her, but find her annoying.

You sound great- I'm sure you'll find the one for you xxx

Thanks again :) happy to hear the kind words, i'm sure my confidence will increase and as suggested I will not bother with the ones who think you have to be well travellled to be worth a date etc.. There will be other People :)