Need advice please ....

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I’m a 28 year old male i had been with my ex for ten years it’s always been sort of a rocky relationship five years in riddled with guilt I cheated on her we split up and we had no contact at all for a year I went a little crazy tried everything I could to get her back failed and eventually giving up but then somehow a year later she found her way back to me ... I spent the rest of my days trying to gain back what little trust I could , we then had our daughter she’s now 4 when she was a baby I couldn’t say i was the most attentive father I didn’t know how to deal with all the baby stuff so I left her too it and went to work anyway two weeks ago we had an argument and she ended it so I pleaded with her and she isn’t interest at all but said she wants to stay freinds witch I declined I don’t text or call her although I still go round every night to see my daughter before bedtime me ex feels the need to be really horrible to me for the first few days she said she needs to be like this so I don’t get my hopes up anyway I’ve been playing it cool not contacting her I know she watching my every move WhatsApp snapchat and on find freinds last night I was with a Freind of the opposite sex and snap chatted a phone of both our feet on the sofa witch she saw this morning I woke up to a text “what’s the plan” today’s my day to have our daughter so she can go to work when I went to pick my daughter up my ex was surprisingly nicer we was talking about Xmas plans and then she said “we’re still not together though” witch she keeps saying she ran around telling her mum straight away we had split went to my family saying it was over proper confused when I wasn’t to drop My daughter home I went in I had made us a cup of tea she was showing me things on her phone a Freind had sent her talking about family problems and then the awkwardness was there and she just sat there behind her phone looking at crap on snapchat she acts as if it’s a gosend that we’ve broken up ... how do I go about dealing with this 😩 oh and we’re due to go on holiday in little over a month as a family

I’ve struggled to read that with any punctuation.

There seems to be a lot of immaturity here.

You can both co-parent without the games

*without

Sorry
I wrote it with some haste .

Well I want to try and reconcile again

It's funny how one can tell from the title of a thread that it was written by a man.

Anyway. OP, please just stop. You blatantly can't be arsed with anything, until someone takes it away from you and suddenly you start running yourself ragged to get it back.

You both sound 12 and unable to have a relationship. Please. Just stop. Theres a child involved here and you're all just teaching her to be a fuckwit.

Leave this woman alone and go and get some therapy. Can I suggest starting with parenting classes through the council, and then see if you can get a social worker or Relate counselor to offer you group therapy where you learn relationship skills.

That would at least give your dd the chance to learn basic adulting skills from one of her parents, at minimum.

You cheated on her, were a shit parent, said you didn't want to be friends when you split up and are already snapping pictures of yourself and other women (which seems rather deliberately calculated to upset her).

Please leave the poor woman alone.

So she’s watching your location on snapchat?
Come on, you’re nearing your 30s here, this is teenager shit.
I’d recommend staying away too. It sounds a bit toxic. You don’t want to be friends, then you want to reconcile?