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Help to stop being jealous and accept my life as it is

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whyismysoullost · 13/10/2019 12:51

Hello,

I promise this is not a depressing post. But I've just been feeling down and frustrated that I feel stuck in my life.

I finally got rid of my abusive ex partner in January. I checked out of the relationship a long time ago. I feel for my child and what's going to happen between the relationship with dad. But I couldn't take no more of the physical/ mental abuse anymore and was worried about the impact it has had on my child.

My best friend, who is a bit older than me, is pregnant with her second child. I am really happy for her and I'm always a phone call/ visit away if she needs some support and company- likewise the same with her. However, I can't help feeling a tad envious that her family unit is growing. Whereas, ex is out of the picture and even though I love my child more than anything, I would like more children but I don't think this W would be the case.

Recently, I now have a huge crush on my professor. I will read one of those magazines, where a woman had fallen for a man who is about 40 years older than her and vowing that I can never do that. Well here us me, I have spontaneously developed a crush on my professor who is 30 years older than me. It was weird how it came about, I had no attraction to him whatsoever, then one day we were discussing about an assignment that I had found difficult, we were laughing about something and our eyes just clicked and I felt this spark. I think he feels the sane way but I know nothing will come out of it, so that's at the back seat.

I just feel a bit bleugh, sad and pitiful. But I know I shouldn't be and Instead should be grateful for the life we have. But how can I stop feeling like this ?

OP posts:
whyismysoullost · 13/10/2019 17:00

Anyone ?

OP posts:
Jog22 · 13/10/2019 17:17

I shouldn't worry about the crush. It might be like you're practising liking someone pleasant as a contrast to what you've experienced and the fact that he's unavailable means it's safe.

The jealousy stuff, well that's normal. Plus you're still maybe mourning for the life you thought you would have.

Well done for leaving your partner. Must be one of the most difficult things to do but you've succeeded in removing your daughter from growing up in a very damaging environment.

Are you studying full time? Do you have family or friends around to be with you? What are the other areas of your life like at the moment?

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