If you've been cheated on..

[Annbann]

Did you notice your partner being extra nice to you?
I've name changed for this.

My ex was horrible to me. Horrible to our children too. He wasn’t home much, always work work work and when he did come home we all walked around on eggshells so as not to set him off. He was also really uninterested in spending time as a family.

There was no discernible difference all 3 times in my case until I found out and then I was the one in the wrong on every occasion.

Maybe but you notice the signs more. Staying up later than usual, on their phone more, evenings out or home later from work, new friends they hadn’t mentioned before etc and subtle changes in their stories they forget about. My ex wife cheated several times so I knew even when she thought I didn’t

No, he was really grumpy with me when I look back on the 3 months it was going on. Would pick an argument over nothing and be critical of me, probably to tell himself he had a reason to do what he did. Was really quite cold