Advice

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Hi, first time posting on here and just really wanted some advice from those that have been through this.

Been with my oh (not married) for a long time and have children together both in primary school. He has got himself into a lot of debt and it has affected our relationship. He isn't the same person anymore and can be extremely selfish and when I try to discuss it to help the situation he will be verbally abusive towards me. We both work full time and have a house together.

I'm at the stage where I now want to leave him but on my wage I can't, i wouldn't be able to afford the mortgage on my own and tbh there aren't any other places much cheaper for me to try and buy. Renting would actually cost me more also.

When I add up bills and the very basics my wage would not cover this. So I feel like I'm trapped where I am. Could anyone that has been through this give me any advice on how i can go alone with my children? It's stressing me out so much I just want a better life for my children and me. Thank you for reading and any advice would be greatly received x

Have you looked into what help and support you would get on your own?

Hi DBML thank you so much for replying! Iv gone on the government website calculator and I wouldn't get very much tbh wouldn't be enough to live on. Do you know anywhere else I could check? X

Hsve you tried www.citizensadvice.org.uk/ ?

@centre2019

Have a chat with citizens advice as they may be able to make suggestions and help. Gingerbread is a charity to support single parents and again may be able to direct you accordingly.

You shouldn’t have to stay with someone who treats you and speaks to you so badly.

Speaking to a solicitor is also important. Most will give a free half hour session. You may be entitled to stay in your home and your husband might have to continue to support the family until the children are 18. It varies depending on situation, so speaking with a solicitor to see where you stand is necessary.

I’m sorry you are going through this.