Do I tell him about my crush ?

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I've had a crush on someone at the gym for the past couple of years .

He and his P are at one of the classes that my DP and I do together.

I've never engaged in any lengthy conversation with the crush , just a couple of gym related short chats over the last couple of years .

DP at one point started a conversation with crush and I walked off and pretended to be interested in the notice board . DP asked me later in the evening why I walked off , I didn't say anything about the crush and gave some other reason . DP said he thought we could be friends with them ( we were new to the area ).

DP gives them a nod every so often and had a couple of short chats with the crush , I don't even give a nod as I don't want engage .

DP engaged in another lengthy chat with him a few days ago . I didn't join in and waited downstairs. I think DP thinks there's a chance we can all be friends .

I'm considering telling DP why I want to keep them at a distance .

I've had crushes before and sometimes told DP and we've had a laugh about it . But things have not been so great with DP since this crush developed . I've avoided telling him about this one as I don't think were in the very good place .

Do I tell my DP about the crush?

You want to unburden yourself by telling your current partner you fancy someone else
How do you think that will play out?What do you want to happen?
There’s nothing to be gained from this,it’s not a truth that’ll yield any happy outcome

I would avoid telling him. There is no reason for it, unless the other guy is showing interest in you too and you think there would be too much temptation?

I think its normal for someone to get a crush at some point in their marriage, but no point in telling partners really. I guess some people think its better. I would not want to burden my dh with it. Also, I would not want him to start worrying about it either...

No, and I think you’re being juvenile and self-dramatising by walking off. It will pass like your others, and in fact it’s perfectly possible you would discover his ordinary feet of clay if you all actually got to know one another.

Thank you all . You've made me see sense .

Definitely do not tell your DH. That cannot possibly have a positive impact on your relationship.

Your crush will pass. You’re not going to act on it so it’s fine.

Be strong OP!