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Anyone got together with a long term friend?

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SmokeHalo · 12/10/2019 23:40

Was is strange or awkward when you did? Did it change your friendship? Did it work out? If it didn’t, were you able to remain friends?

We’ve been friends for over 35 years, since we were young children. Despite finding him objectively attractive, I have never thought of him in any way other than a really good friend. He did once tell me, years ago when drunk, that he was in love with me but we both freaked out and drifted apart for a while. At the time I put it down to the alcohol. I don’t know how he feels about me now.

Lately, I have started feeling differently. It’s getting to the stage where I want to tell him but I worry that it will feel awkward to be in a physical relationship after so many years of platonic friendship. I’m not a demonstrably affectionate person, particularly with friends, so I’m worried that it won’t feel right or natural. I can’t imagine seeing each other naked!

Obviously there is the risk that it might change or end our friendship too. I question whether that’s a risk worth taking.

Do I tell him or leave things as they are?

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onemorecupofcoffeefortheroad · 13/10/2019 07:42

Tricky one.
It will most certainly change the friendship part of your relationship if you end up in a romantic or physical relationship with each other. On the other hand if you have feelings for him and he still has them for you it might be a shame not to explore

I've not been in this situation but know of friends who married their 'best friends' after being friends for a long time and it worked out.
Also know a girl (well a woman in her fifties now) who has mamaged to remain friends with friends she slept with. She's the exception rather than the rule though.

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