Why does my best friend annoy me so much?

[Butterfly944]

Me & my best friend have been friends since childhood.
We have never really fallen out or argued but the past couple of years she went through a bad break up which ended up with her having depression and becoming suicidal. I have been there for her through thick & thin and listened/ helped her through it all. She comes over to my house every night of the week for a coffee and chat. This has been fine and hasn’t bothered me or my boyfriend but just lately I haven’t really wanted to see her or wanted her to come over anymore and I feel she really annoys me with her opinions or just putting a downer on everything :/

I feel guilty as I’m her only friend and her family live away but I feel like I have my own life with my boyfriend and in the evenings we like to watch TV etc. The same as my day off.. she wants to hang out but I don’t always want too.

I really don’t know why I feel like this...?

She does sound very clingy and it seems a bit unhealthy. Maybe start finding excuses on why she can't come over every night?

I think I could feel the same - you’re taking a lot of pressure and it can be very wearing.

What do you mean by her “opinions”?

She comes to your house every night?! That there is your answer to why she annoys you so much.

I suggest you limit it to once a week.

Every night!!!! That would drive me mad. You need to tell her it’s too much. It’s not healthy. It must be putting a strain on your relationship

Every night??? So she basically uses you as a free counsellor. I think you need to gradually cut it down to once a week at most - that's if you actually get anything out of the friendship yourself

Thank you everyone for the advice. Yeah I think the every night part is getting too much! Will definitely be cutting it back xx