Wow this is so difficult... please help

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I recently met a wonderful man, who was actively seeking a relationship, after being single for five years, after a relationship that he was in for almost 16 years ended.
Five years ago his 18 year old daughter hung herself, (I dont know any more details) other than this.
We were always talking each other and texting throughout the days, and now deathly silence..
My freind recently tried to commit suicide, but luckily enough was found in time!
He said that hear me talking about my freind, has opened all the old wounds, that his head cant deal with it, and that he cares about me very much, but he cant handle anything at the moment and he needs to go back in his shell...
I know he did have "dark days" before all of this and I'm so so worried about him.
I dare not call and text after he has made it clear he needs space, but I'd like him to know that I'm here and that I care.
I dont know how you would ever come to terms with something like this, but hes not alone.
This man has touched my heart, and i desperately want him to know I'm here.
How long do men go in their shell for?
How can I support him? To try and make him see?

Give him space.

"Men" don't all have the same wiring! No one can accurately say that as a blanket statement!
To answer your question, I would text him to say I know he needs his space and I respect it completely but only wanted him to know I am here if he ever needs it and I might possibly apologise for causing any problems for him without mentioning what it is.
Knowing he lost his daughter to suicide, it was a bit insensitive of you to tell him about your friend.

How long is it since you have heard from him OP? And how often would you normally speak to him/see him? Of course you need to give him space, but if for example you normally speak every day and you haven't spoken for 2 weeks, I would probably send a text saying I completely respect your need for space and don't expect any kind of reply, but I wanted you to know I care and I am here for you if you need anything

Then leave it

(Sent unfinished) Then I'd give him space. If he comes back, fine. If he doesn't, fine.

Give him as much time & space as he needs.

Losing a child isn't something you ever get over. My younger brother did the same thing & there are times that my dad just shuts down completely & the best way to deal with it is to let him be until he's ready to come out of it.

He has been triggered by your friends attempt and he is now gone back into a deep grieving process. Its a bit like PTSD. You must leave him alone for however long he needs. Getting in touch may trigger another response. Please tread carefully this is a very sensitive time for him. He has been very brave and upfront with you to tell you that he cares for you but can't handle anything at the moment. Listen to what he has said. He knows where you are and how to contact you. I urge you to leave him be for now and for a while longer.