Is the grass greener I'm going out my mind

[Sdixon44]

We have been together for 8 years this Monday, but recently have had a lot of arguments about him helping round the house/ spending quality time with me ( normally he is on laptop upstairs) he is being more attentive. My worry is I keep questioning my relationship in my head thinking I could be happier with someone else?? I have also met a guy at work who I fancy but wouldn't cheat. Maybe I'm missing the butterflies?? We don't have kids or married and It's just getting me thinking are these normal? How anyone know when a relationship is truly over? I still look forward to him coming home and cuddling and spending time with me it's just this idea the grass is greener won't go away 😩 how can I get it to go away...

Are you having a laugh?

I could bring out all the usual cliches!
'The grass in greener where you water it'
'Grass is always greener on the other side because it's fertilized with bullshit'
'Sometimes the grass in greener on the other side because it's fake'
It's very rarely greener.
But you won't know until you try.
So dump your current bloke and go for a new one!!!
Obviously this is not really my advice.
You still like spending time with him. Look forward to him coming home.

Do you still have fun? Go out and enjoy yourselves?
Compatible? Common interests?
Is he stepping up after you told him he needs to sort himself out?
Are there any reasons you aren't married or have any kids?

I completely understand them feelings. Its often these initial thoughts that can lead to worse problems. If you're having major feelings like this then there must be something wrong or lacking in your relationship. Honestly even though it would probably be very difficult, id sit down with your DP and explain you are not fully content with things and it makes your mind wonder if you'd be happier alone. I say alone because saying 'with another person' would just most likely result in a major upset. If he can see how seriously who feel about things then hopefully you can work on things together. And if he doesnt want to work on things then that really speaks for itself i'd say.

Is this thread number 5 or 6 on this? I'm losing count!

What are you expecting out of these multiple threads OP? No one can wave a magic wand and fix this for you. The advice on all your threads seems to be the same: relationship has run it's course. No one can say magic words that will have your sexually incompatible, disengaged and uninterested partner fall back in love with you so you can have some fantasy happy ever after.

Either shit or get off the potty.

The grass normally is greener