Does anyone else feel that their relationship is nothing but a struggle lately? :(

[chewirlouise]

I feel so down, nothing much has changed in our situation but my DH has,

I feel like Ive lost him. Were jut really distant to each other, and whilst hes at work Ill miss him and want him to come home, but when he does hes always moody and i feel instantly saddened.

I want us to workit out.

I think hes depressed - whilst Im getting better.

Some days i really do just want him gone, but then I remember how he 'really' is and think 'i can get him back'

I wanted to cuddle him last night in bed, but all he was interested in was getting back down stairs to the TV,

that really hurt

I think a night together alone would work wonders but my mothers ill and my MIL works abroad so dont have anywhere for the kids to go

Have you spoken to him about how your feeling? Maybe he just needs a nudge to tell you whats going on and how he's feeling.

How's your financial situation as there are baby sitting agencies you can use to let you have a night out if you have not family or friends who can help, but they are unfortunately not cheap (see for eg sitters.co.uk)?

If you can't go out, could you put the dcs to bed and have a "night in" with nice meal etc.

From what you say, not sure that a single evening will solve all of your problems though. Have you thought about counselling so you can talk through problems in a neutral environment?

I could have written your post chewirlouise, word for word in fact.

I think a relationship takes much more work once children are in the picture and there are so many additional pressures.

ditto, my thread here

i know its not cheap, but there are babysitting agencies you could use :I not ideal though.

me and dh are as good as separated at this point. we've stopped wearing our rings.

i wish i had something inspiring to say, just know you're not alone and on MN, you'll in good company for the very most part

x