Ex coming back 3 years later

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So 3 years ago my best friends partner walked out on her. She thought they were about to move in together and had spoken about marriage.
It was a shock to everyone and she has taken about 2. 5 years to get over him and gone through all the break up emotions.
He left her hanging and unfortunately they've been in contact most of the time... Low contact but on his terms. She's never moved on.
Found out today he's asked to meet up, after 3years!
Again he hasn't been clear as to why he wants to meet up but I worry it'll get her hopes up etc.
I want to support her.

My question is can couples get back together and for it to work out when previously there has been a break up?

Is this necessarily bad news?

Thank you

Not necessarily.
She will meet him, find out what she wants.
It'll either end happily or in complete heartbreak for her.

He has realised the grass wasn't greener.. Nobody has fallen for his charms.
He wants a shag...

Sounds like bad news.
She's going to get sucked in by him and then he'll dump her again.
She really needs to cease contact and move on.

What ever you do just tell her NOT to see him. She is his fall back girl. I would bet he has finished with a relationship and wants his ego stroked. She has done a lot of self healing...this will set her back enormously. Please tell her not to go.

Thanks for your opinions.
I personally think he's going to lead her on again and it's horrible to see this happen to such a wonderful person. She's definitely not given other potential men a chance because she's always been hung up on her ex.
He knows this and I feel he's being bloody selfish for it.

My friend re married her ex after 20 years - but they had both had other long term relationships and been round the block so to speak. I’m this case I’d say not a chance - but I suspect she will go along with it as she’s not over him. All you can do is offer support and be there if it goes tits up

MikeUniformMike
Not necessarily.
She will meet him, find out what she wants.
It'll either end happily or in complete heartbreak for her.
.....
Agree with that.

Hope all goes well for her. Please let us know.

She has to take some responsibility for allowing him to keep her dangling all these years OP.

I wonder if it is to tell her he is getting married. Would not surprise me at all.

BumbleBeee69 yep I have to agree. There have been times I got quite frustrated with her allowing him to do as he pleased and she's always been running after him. Feel bad for even admitting it but it's sometimes been very annoying! She's put her life on hold when all she wants is marriage and kids but never really gotten over him to try with a good man.

C0untDucku1a yes this is whats been going through my mind. He's the time of self indulgent twat to do this.

I really don't like him. He's selfish and arrogant but I worry if they did try again it'd be on his terms.
Also when he walked out he cried to her over and over and was a mess but never took responsibility.

I suppose I need to manage myself and what I say if she does meet up and they do start to see each other again.

Well if he has been improving himself in the past 3 years, going on courses, reading books etc, she might have some luck with him.
However if he has been busy shagging around and is now single, and is going back to his safe bet, then she is in for a crappy roller coaster ride that she is not strapped in for.

If you go back and they haven't worked on themselves, they will have even less respect 2nd time round.

You are a good friend to her to have her back.

have you heard from her OP, is she definitely going to meet him. Hopefully this will go the opposite way and give her a rude awakening and closure.

Any news?