Do I end this relationship please help 😞

[Sdixon44]

Please I am very upset and it's going around and around in my head 😩😥 I have been with my partner for 7 half years I was 19 when got together. I love him still but I feel we are not that compatible, don't have much in common and he is very into his laptop/gaming. We have had several disagreements this past year over spending time together and things have improved but I don't know I feel I could be happier with someone else? The main thing right now is there is they guy at work and I sense he likes me he is single and part of me keeps imaging a life with him and I do fancy him ( would never cheat ) but I feel very lost as to what to do with my current boyfriend. I keep Google searching how know to leave and it's hard because I love him still and want it to work but how can I make such as difficult decision 😩😩 how can you know when to let go or stay . It makes me hurt inside knowing I would never see him again but the other side me things the grass could be greener.
Please help x

End the relationship and spend some time alone.

A good 6months or so.

Work out who you are as a woman, learn to be your best mate and don’t ever settle for anyone less than loving, kind and caring - someone that makes you happy

The guy at work is only a catalyst- it wouldn’t be a good idea to jump from one relationship to another, you need to reconnect with you first.

Have you started several threads about this OP.
Take MzHz's advice.

MzHz is totally right. If you're obsessing over how to split, whether to split, what to do...you're not happy. I was in that place for months and now that I have split with him it seems so obvious that if it's right you won't feel like that - you might be unsure but you'd talk to them, not be searching Google all the time. I know it's hard to see when you're in it though.

I've been single for 6 months, I'm around your age and had never really been single as an adult before - had a bad habit of jumping between relationships. It's so refreshing! I have zero want to be in a relationship just now, I'm just about getting to the stage of thinking it would be nice in a few months.

But I've had time to be me, and reflect, and work out my boundaries and limits and I genuinely feel I'll be far better at dating/being in a relationship now I know what the heck I want (rather than just going for things that feel nice).

Don't go for the other guy. Go for you and stay single for you. Honestly it's liberating.

Relationships always felt a bit like a tightrope before (once out of honeymoon phase) to me - and I always struggled with compromise.

I suspect now that's because actually I wasn't in the right relationship. I'm excited to one day be with someone where it's easy and fun and kind the majority of the time. You deserve that too. It's not the one you've got right now!

Thank you everyone and yes you all right I know I'm going to have to end it. It really hurts I'm crying now and I think why am I letting him go?? 😩 I just think I could be with someone better suited who enjoys more of what I like 😓

Are you upset by the idea of losing him, or the idea of losing the future you'd hoped for with him?

The moment I realised I was letting go of a wish, not a person, it got a lot easier for me. My wish was based on who we both were together at the start of the relationship NOT what we were like by then. The wish I had literally wasn't possible!

You change a lot in your 20s. You and your DP have probably just drifted apart.
You could try to make it work, but you'd be better off parting on good terms.
Your colleague will probably be less attractive when you are single.

You’re 26 love? You have soooooooooo much life to live! You deserve to be happy.

we all do. well not my ex, he can ftfo

I’m as near as damn it twice your age, I know that the person I was at 19 was light years away from who I was at 26, 36 or 46.

I’ve marvelled at those who marry/get together young and pass the test of time together- thinking about how we change as individuals within a couple, the odds of being compatible after years and years are lower than winning the lottery

You’re growing in the way you need to, he may be doing the same for him. But it doesn’t make you happy and that is all that matters- we are responsible for our own happiness

If you make the decision to split now, you give yourself and your oh the chance to move on and find the people that will be right for each other

I know it’s hard, I know it sucks but it’s the right thing to do love.

Sounds like you've outgrown him OP. If you really wanted to stay then you wouldn't be googling ways to tell him.

You're young and will find someone where you feel truely happy.

Another supporting MzHz.