Fancying someone else whilst in Long term relationship

[Sdixon44]

Me and my partner have been together 7 years I was 18 I'm not nearly 26. We have had a rough past 6 months ups and downs mostly downs about him spending quality time with me/ dates. I do love him and still look forward being with him/ sex. The thing is we don't have as much sex as I would like he has a low sex drive and we often argue quite alot, he is always on his laptop or gaming which leaves me feeling alone most the time. We also don't have thatuch in common, I love to cook and watch horror movies he does not. But are values are the same... And know I have met this guy at work ( we both work at same place) and I find myself really fancying him and thinking about what it would be like to be with him... What this mean? I would never cheat but it's worrying me and maybe means my boyfriend isn't the one? What should I so I'm so confused I love him but part me thinks maybe the grass could be greener?? Please help I'm going out my mind

Why don’t you resolve the issue with your relationship first? If you are truly struggling with the relationship, break up with him. Have the decency to do the right thing and not cheat on him.

It sounds like you are looking for reassurance/approval but be aware that you won’t get that here

I'd say your relationship has run its course. I don't think there is such a thing as 'the one'. Perhaps you'd be better off single for a while?

Crushes in long term relationships are normal. But you’re dissatisfied in your relationship and so despite you saying you won’t cheat, you’re on a slippery slope. It’s ok to grow out of relationships and it sounds like that one isn’t meeting your needs anymore. I wouldn’t finish with your partner with the intention of getting with the new guy, more of being on your own and figuring you out.

It’s your brain giving you a shiny new distraction because you aren’t happy with how things are. There are two things you can do, either leave the boyfriend and pursue it, or fix what is wrong with your boyfriend. For what it’s worth, I have been with my DH for over 20 years, and in the rough spells I have fancied other men. And I know he has fancied other women, but we always sort things out between us and get things back to where they should be. I don’t believe there is any such thing as “the one,” there are just people who you decide are worth the effort, and work hard on the relationship with.

Am I dreaming or have you posted the same thing 3 times all with different titles?

I don't fancy anyone but my partner now because I'm happy and satisfied by him and he says the same about me, but in a last relationship where I was deeply unhappy and didn't fancy my partner, I looked at other men as a distraction.

It sounds like your relationship has run its course. Together since 18, thats really young to end up with the person. If your having troubles now, it only gets worse after marriage and kids. So if he has a low sex drive now, it gets worse not better. New challenges come up when married, kids etc. I would break up and then date etc and find someone you have more in common with and more suitable.

Don't believe in 'the one', but if I did I'd struggle to see how your bf could vaguely be 'the one': incompatible sex drives; argue a lot; nothing in common; he's disengaged by gaming; he doesn't want to spend quality time with you. There will be millions of men in the world who share your values!

Millions! Ones who would like to spend quality time with you cooking and watching horror movies, having sex and not arguing!!

This doesn't sound like love, it sounds like pretending it's love because of a fear of change. It's run its course. Don't hang on to it because he was ONCE in the distant past 'the one'.