Do ex’s ever get back in touch because they just want to be friends?

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Split up with ex bf about 3.5 months ago, it was over some weird confusion about a friend. Nothing was his fault and nothing was mine, neither of us did anything wrong it was due to a friend of mine interfering.

Anyway, today he text me. It’s the first time he’s initiated texting me. I’ve text him a few times and he’s responded but never been the one to start a conversation.

Is this just because he wants to put what’s happened behind us and be friends? He just asked how I was and about work so nothing to suggest anything different. I’m letting myself get carried away thinking about us trying again because I still really like him. He would have said if it was that though wouldn’t he?

Sounds like he's testing the water. An ex of mine did this recently and we ended up getting back together for a bit.

Don't go all in though. I'd stop texting him first and wait for him to text you. If he doesn't start initiating conversations, walk away. There's also the possibility that he's just after a shag if he thinks you're up for it.

Of course he wants to be friends - with your fanny. Three and a half months is nothing. He remembers the sex and there's nothing better going on so he'd like some more.

Stop texting him, stop responding if he texts.

Only if ion work together or have the same friends do you really need to be friends 🤷🏼‍♀️

Nothing was his fault and nothing was mine, neither of us did anything wrong it was due to a friend of mine interfering.

What's the back story here? Did you both agree that neither of you were at fault? Because if so, it's weird that you allowed it to split you both up. Has he laid the blame on the friend interfering but used it as a get out?

Sorry if I'm way off. Just seems very strange to me.

Its difficult to tell to be jonest. I wanted to stay friends with my ex as we'd had 20 years together and that's a lot of memories.
He kept in touch for a while on the basis of friends but there was always an ulterior motive such as wanting to come back when he was skint but as soon as he realised I wasn't going to be his bank of free home anymore I was ghosted, blocked and fired out of canon.
So yes they usually want something but I'd walk away if I were you.

I'm on the other side of this at the moment. There's a guy I was messaging quite a bit, we had drinks a couple of times, got on really well etc, but then he said he wasn't really feeling it. This was back in July and to be honest I still like him and wondering if it's worth dropping him a message and seeing how conversation goes. I've seen him a few times since and we've said hi but not really had a proper conversation. If I saw him as just a friend I probably wouldn't be considering doing that, so I agree with a PP, he's testing the water.

@readitandwept I’ve got another thread on here about it, called something like not sure how to explain this. But basically a friend of mine was messaging him and he thought it was me so ended it because of that, now he knows it hasn’t been me so I don’t know if that’s changed his mind about things. Or he might just feel a bit bad for how it ended and want to be friends?

I won’t text and see if he does again, see how it goes from there.

Would you want to give things another try though? If so, I don't see the harm in texting him yourself. That way, if he is testing the water, he knows you may be interested. That's the way I see it, anyway.

Booty call.

Of course he wants to be friends - with your fanny

It’s that time of year where it’s getting a bit wintry cold, nobody is going out much because they’re starting to save for all the Christmas nights out coming up, he wants some nice easy ‘Netflix and chill’.

His little head is overruling the big head