Did he take advantage

[Blessed23]

Hi
I've recently posted a few threads as I'm struggling in my relationship at the moment for various reasons, one of the main reasons is something that happened a few years ago.
I had been out drinking with my sister in law when 2 guys came over chatting to us, one convinced me to put my drink down while he showed me his Australian ID. After the point everything went black, my sister in law said I literally lost the ability to speak or walk so she obviously got me home. I'm convinced I was spiked.
Looking back I would have hoped that me partner would have had the decency to put me to bed. But instead he took the opportunity to do what he wanted with me. By this point we had been together around 7 years with 2 kids. I kind of remember being sick in the bath and then he was doing whatever he wanted to me on the bathroom floor. I can't help but feel like he had no level of respect for me and I can't get over it. I feel like he shouldn't have done that. I have addressed it with him but he brushes it off. Am I over reacting or was he wrong to do that
TIA

That's one of the most disgusting things I've ever read!! You had your drink spiked and he chose to sexually assault you instead of care for you and help you feel safe and recover.
He's a repulsive, disgusting parasite and you should get the hell away from him.

Also coercing you at other times. He's nasty

That is horrendous op.

As a married man, I really can not get my head around seeing my wife being drugged and thinking oh great she is now too weak and immobile to resist me...

Really think about that state of mind, the mind of a predator who sees only a weak prey and takes what they want.

That’s not the love a man, a real man, has for his wife or partner.

Please don’t waste your life pleasing someone who literally thinks that little of you that he rapped you. As advised previously seek professional help ASAP. You deserve better and when you see that yourself you will be as shocked as all of us that has read your post.

All the best x

I don't feel like he raped me. I do feel very angry and upset by it though, I know it wasn't right of him to do it. He is obsessed with sex, he sulks and guilt trips me if I turn him down so I just give in to save the hassle.

relenting (giving in for any reason) isn't consenting. You have been raped, possibly multiple times. You should leave.

While you were unfit to consent, he sexually assaulted you and if he "had sex" with you, he raped you. It doesn't matter how you see it, op. sexually activity without consent is assault and/or rape

Hes an habitual rapist OP. The incident you describe was very clear cut rape, and the constant coercive behaviour that leads to you giving in is also rape.

Hes a criminal and a disgusting person who has no respect for you.

Why are you with him?! That’s so vile and disgusting. He is beyond words. Would you want your daughter to be with a man like him? No. Leave him.

It mightn't feel like rape, but it's rape. You were not able to consent.

The times when he's trying to coerce you into sex are rapey too, and any time it happens are at least verging on rape, because it's sex you don't want.

Why stay with a man like that, you really dont have to. There is a much better life waiting for you where you wont be regularly used for sex. There is help for you to leave, go find it...maybe start with phoning WA or Rape Crisis for a start. Good luck OP, hopefully you will take yourself away from this situation.

Haffiana is right

Why are you with him. Literally the only positive is he hasnt hit you.

But he is a rapist and incredibly sexually abusive. His behaviour isnt right. And now you have told him its over and he wont accept it

Yes that is rape OP. I think you should talk to someone.

Giving in to sex is also considered rape. Press charges against him.

The times when he's trying to coerce you into sex are rapey too, and any time it happens are at least verging on rape, because it's sex you don't want.

Not rapey. Just rape. Relenting isn't consenting.