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Just Found out he lied

51 replies

summersun0191 · 09/10/2019 16:37

Hi im after a bit of advice on how to deal with something I've just found out, I'm absolutely seething right now and don't want to do anything stupid.

My partner text me yesterday to say he was going to be working late and would I mind seeing to his dog which was fine. Anyway, he puts the hours he works on his calender and I've noticed today and he's put that he worked till his normal time yesterday. I have no idea how to confront him about this or what to say to him as I'm so furious.

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AnyFucker · 09/10/2019 18:09

Why are you wiping this loser's arse for him ?

Don't you have a life of your own ? Christ knows what you have found in his post but you know he is dodgy. How much more will you bend over backwards to stay in a relationship with him ?

JorisBonson · 09/10/2019 18:13

Another thread that miraculously took a turn 🤔

RLEOM · 09/10/2019 18:13

Cheek of him! Well done for leaving him. Don't fall for his forgiveness, he will do it again.

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summersun0191 · 09/10/2019 18:21

I can't believe how much of a mug I've been. He has used me and not given a shit about me the whole time.

Just for clarification, he went from years of night shitfs to day shift and was struggling getting his body clock right, that's why I was ringing him. Obviously I don't give a shit now so he can find some other fool to look after him.

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Hiphopopotamus · 09/10/2019 18:30

What was the post?

ExcitedForFuture · 09/10/2019 18:31

Did his ex used to go and see to his dog?

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 09/10/2019 18:31

You haven't been a mug at all summersun . Because you're a kind and decent and loyal human being you probably just assumed that he was too. As soon as you saw him for what he truly is, you binned him. Which is exactly what I would have done.

AnyFucker · 09/10/2019 18:52

I have a vague memory of a previous post from a woman looking after some loser bloke's dog. Was that you ?

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summersun0191 · 09/10/2019 19:03

Ex is long in the past, or so I thought. We've always been quite pleasant to eachother to the point where he was sick of us chatting when she dropped the kids off so I've never had a problem with her. And no she never saw to his dog, the dog has only been with him a short while.

He's still denying lying to me tho, it's fully over and I need to move on. I am truly heartbroken and feel so foolish for not trusting my gut instinct.

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EggysMom · 09/10/2019 19:05

I'm curious to know what the piece of post was, too!

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summersun0191 · 09/10/2019 19:05

Oh the post was addressed to a girl who used to work with him, that's what he told me anyway, but it seems she's been using his address for council tax fraud and has not got a court summons. Ive Seriously had a lucky escape looking back.

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beenwhereyouare · 09/10/2019 19:13

How did you find out about the ex?

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summersun0191 · 09/10/2019 19:23

He left a receipt on the counter top for a shop next to where she lives at the time he was supposed to be working late.

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LittlefairyMum · 09/10/2019 19:26

Jesus OP

Count yourself lucky he's so stupid.

You dodged a bullet there for sure! Unreliable, selfish, lying, flake.

RLEOM · 09/10/2019 19:44

He's clearly good at easily telling lies. My ex was like this. 🙄

Good riddance! I think you deserve a nice glass of wine and some chocolate in celebration.

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summersun0191 · 09/10/2019 19:46

@Rleom that's a damn good idea.

Thanks to everyone for the support, it's escalated pretty damn fast but I feel relieved that it's over and he can't lie to me again but I'm also very hurt.

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SurfingGiantess · 09/10/2019 19:48

I'm sorry this happened op.
At least you know now and can move on.
You sound quite strong you can do this.
Look after yourself and he can fuck off. He's losing out and you're better off without him.

MzHz · 09/10/2019 22:37

Massive hissy hug to you (((((hug)))))

It’s absolutely for the best

Divebar · 09/10/2019 23:32

So I appreciate this is slightly irrelevant now so was he actually visiting his kids or was he home alone with his ex?

MotherOfSoupDragons · 09/10/2019 23:41

Why was his post delivered to your house? You were supposed to be at yours, not his.

AmIThough · 10/10/2019 06:48

@MotherOfSoupDragons the post for someone else was delivered to his house. She was waiting at his house for him to come home.

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summersun0191 · 10/10/2019 06:49

Post was delivered to his, I was at his seeing to dog, post had been delivered, same time I saw the calendar entry.

He was at ex's seeing her, the point here is he'd asked me to see to dog as he was working late but he wasn't, he was seeing her so the lies and me being a mug is what the issue is here.

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AmIThough · 10/10/2019 07:05

@summersun0191 you weren't a mug. You just trusted a twat. This is on him, not you.
I hope you haven't wasted too much time on him.

Juells · 10/10/2019 08:54

So he had you looking after his dog to free him up for shenanigans. He's a prince.

Duchessgummybuns · 10/10/2019 08:57

He’s not your son so stop raising him

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