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Help replying to post first date text!

37 replies

Mamakiks · 09/10/2019 16:19

I went on a first date last night. It went well, the guy seemed lovely, kissed me at the end, text me in the morning. All good. I however drank a little too much and he's just text me referring to something we must have talked about last night but I have no idea what he's on about Blush

How do I style this out? Tell him I don't remember that part of the conversation (makes me sound like a lush) answer as if I know what he's talking about (dangerous in case he continues the conversation) or just ignore it and text him something totally different?!

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AnchorDownDeepBreath · 09/10/2019 16:21

We can't help with this without more context... It's very much going to depend what he's said.

HollowTalk · 09/10/2019 16:23

You broke the first date rules about drinking too much! Do you think maybe his memory's as bad as yours and has imagined the conversation?

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Mamakiks · 09/10/2019 16:25

Well he's asked me a question about an activity that he thinks I've done today. I haven't done it and I don't remember telling him I was going to but I must have done 😂

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HollowTalk · 09/10/2019 16:27

Were you planning to do that activity? Is it like him saying, "Did you have a good run?" when you've never had a run in your life?

He might have been dating a lot and got you mixed up with someone else and is kicking himself now, hoping you don't notice the slip!

SummerHouse · 09/10/2019 16:29

The text please. We won't tell anyone...

Amys136 · 09/10/2019 16:29

I’d leave it a while then text with something different

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Mamakiks · 09/10/2019 16:30

Something like that but it's an activity that I do sometimes do so it sounds plausible that I said it - although I wasn't planning to do it today which means that I was making shit up and what the hell else did I say? Blush

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Underyoursky · 09/10/2019 16:30

Has he got you mixed up with someone else?

DiaryofWimpyMumm · 09/10/2019 16:33

Maybe it's him who is confused, surely you would remember

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Mamakiks · 09/10/2019 16:33

Hmm it's possible he's mixed me up with someone but unlikely as the activity is quite unusual and I don't know anyone else who does it, which is probably why he's asking about it! Sorry I know the irritation on mn with mystery hobbies (it's not cycling!)

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titchy · 09/10/2019 16:43

Can't you just say you've decided to do rowing/baking/baton-twirling/limbo next week instead?

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Mamakiks · 09/10/2019 16:43

I actually can't remember the last part of our conversation. This is embarrassing.

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Interestedwoman · 09/10/2019 16:43

Oh dear lol. As it is something you actually do, I would just reply as if you had done the thing.

I know it can be hard if we're nervous, but don't drink too much next time! Maybe on date 3 or 4 you can let your hair down again :)

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Mamakiks · 09/10/2019 16:47

What if I reply saying I decided not to do it today and he has actually mixed me up with someone and knows I'm bluffing and can't remember the conversation 😂 Am I overthinking this?

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MrsDemeanor · 09/10/2019 16:47

I'd just admit it bluntly tbh. "Refresh my lightweight memory I've a feeling I've been talking drunken shite to you as I have no idea what you're talking about" with some laughing faces.

SummerHouse · 09/10/2019 16:50

Text back with "oh did I say I was doing X?? What the hell else did I say? Sorry the alcohol went to my head." Better out than in I always say.

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Mamakiks · 09/10/2019 16:57

You lot are braver than me!! I'm ignoring for now.

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LifeSpectator · 09/10/2019 16:59

reply with got caught up with (enter something like work, studdies, looking after my hungover friend) so no x for me, planning to go in a week /fortnight /next month- whatevers appropriate...so your not actually saying you said you'd do it today, but not denying either....

burnoutbabe · 09/10/2019 17:01

You could reply to say you were feeling a bit fragile today so just chilled (or struggled through work and having a quiet evening if that is more appropriate). Which doesn't confirm or deny that you may do the thing or were planning on doing it.
Then ask how his day is.

Rivkka · 09/10/2019 17:01

I'd say what summerhouse said

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Mamakiks · 09/10/2019 17:04

Ok how about this - I do remember telling him that I'm currently obsessed with another activity so I was going to send a pic of it and say "this is all I've done today" therefore ignoring the question but still answering.

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TimeForNewStart · 09/10/2019 17:21

Good response!

pudding21 · 09/10/2019 17:24

How about "there is no way I have been doing anything else other than the bare essentials today, no extra acitivites after last night

And then wait until he brings it up again to know what he was talking about. I did lol at your post, as I have done many a thing like that in the past!

AnneKipanki · 09/10/2019 17:33

That sounds good @Mamakiks z

Bluntness100 · 09/10/2019 17:35

Just style it out, it's no big deal

"Oh it's been a manically busy day today so only managed to work"

End of.