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On friendships-tell me if I need a reality check

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One1 · 07/10/2019 10:47

I’m not married, no kids, just in a long term partnership.
My childhood bestie who I get to see once a year at its best is coming to where I now live as she is accompanying her 15 year old daughter. So she gave me the dates and tells me the daughter is to do some courses up to 5pm. I suggested we go for theatre and she said yes. However we cannot go evening time when the daughter is free as I need to be at home(very early start in my job). So I suggested going to the matinee but she’d rather go with the daughter as well as she’d be doing this mostly for her.
A bit of background here. I spend a whole day with the friend and daughter a month ago. Actually every time I see her when she is in the area I promise myself I will not go see her again. She is well travelled but she is highly critical of everything going on in the big city I now live in. She lives in a capital as well , just not as big as mine. Every time I seem to forget the previous encounter and go for a new one, as I’m not a person to keep a grudge.
During our teenage years I was always there for her, through every drama and heartbreak she head with all boyfriends. I am only mentioning this so not to drip feed, not that I feel like anyone ows me anything.
I am merely trying to organise something fun and keep her mouth shut from more criticism.
AIBU to think that we could go to the theatre just the 2 of us while the daughter is unavailable?
Pleas give me a slap if I am wrongConfused

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beachcomber70 · 07/10/2019 11:34

Seems the visit and theatre trip is on her terms and she's doing it mostly for her daughter ie. not you. She isn't too fond of the place where you live either and could easily slip out another disparaging remark.
More than once you have thought you don't want to meet up again.

I've felt like this and after not doing what I really wanted with a friend too many times I eventually stopped it altogether. Life's too short. We had both changed too much.
It's reasonable to think she would want to do something with just you but it seems she doesn't, really. I personally wouldn't bother. It's not sounding enjoyable or that you like her a lot any more. That's ok. And her criticisms seem to be putting you on edge.

donethinkin · 07/10/2019 11:53

She doesn’t sound like a great friend to be honest!

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