im feeling trapped......get a cuppa this is long winded

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hi please tell me i am not the omly one who feels like this to ease my guilt, I have two children 1 aged 5 years and 1 aged 14 weeks and i am so jealous of my hubby going out to work playing golf after work etc and basically having a life when i do is kids, kids and more kids. yes i hear you shouting....well you do something, get a hobby etc but at the end of the evening by the time my partner gets in i am shattered and am ready for bed. i feel him and i are flat mates and im his freeby nanny......moan moan........boring i know but need a release

I remember its hard when you just crave a bit of you-time or some adult interraction at least. I have a 5.5, 3.5 and 21m year old. Although I absolutely love family time (and all its tantrums, tears and hair-pulling-out times) I have a night out about every 6 weeks with one of my oldest friends. We go out and get hammered, have a fantastic time and its a chance for me to just be me again. Its so important that you have a little of your own time and do something without the kids. Is hubby sympathetic to your cause? Is there something you could do regularly just to enable you to have some time-out? How often does he play golf?

I went through this last year with dp, he would just take it for granted that he had a built in babysitter and bugger off down the pub after work.

We had lots of rows and but he did listen eventually and has changed, although still reverts back occasionally.

Have you told your dh how you are feeling?

yes he supports me going out but its when and how to find energy, he plays golf probably twice a week and works long hours so practically single parent in week so when the weekend comes i feel bad saying right im off out when its the only time we have family time together

I totally understand u.I feel like i get shafted every single day with housework,kids blah blah blah and dp thinks its a walk in the park for me.....but i bet 100 quid he couldnt do what i do for a whole day and think its a doddle.I think the big thing is that u forget who u actually are, your "mum" "skivvy" but dont really know who YOU are anymore.you deserve at least an afternoon a week on your own while dp has dc

have u thought about putting the youngest dc in nursery one day a week???? it would be great when the eldest is back at school and it will give u time on your own x

guess so but she is so young would feel uncomfortable leaving her and trusting a stranger as she is omly 14 weeks,, but the idea is fantastic, it does not help that i am a nanny too so i get no escape looking after somebody elses kids aswell as my own