Unsatisfying sex. WWYD?

[Pa55thegin]

Well, sex wasn't always bad but since having kids, its really unsatisfying (for me!)

Been with H for 11 years, 2 young DC. Generally good relationship with DH although the sex has been an issue now for a few years. He always enjoys himself, then falls asleep leaving me unsatisfyed and frustrated!

I'm going round in circles... bad sex/not wanting to do it again/give in eventually thinking it could be different/bad sex...

Yes, I have spoken to H, although he will make more of an effort for the next time we have sex but it really is a one off.

It gets me so down, sometimes after sex I will have a little cry in the bathroom as I feel used. Of course H has enjoyed it and now happily sleeping...

Any advise?? WWYD?

You seem to have raised it with him a number of times. I'm not sure there is much else but an ultimatum tbh.

Next time he wants it, say no. When he asks why, say because you know you won’t enjoy it so there’s no point. It might make him have a think.

He doesnt care whether you enjoy it or not OP. Is he selfish and mean in other ways? Is he affectionate towards you when he doesnt want sex? Are you emotionally intimate?

Thank you for all the replies! Sorry for not replying sooner, our youngest is a bit poorly. DH just taken the dog for a walk so I have some time!

Yes there are a couple of other selfish 'quirks' he has but the bad sex is becoming a real issue for me.

I'm going to tell him later that I have needs too... and if he can't fulfil my needs then I'm sure a few toys will be joining us in the bedroom!