Does anyone else struggle to talk to their partner

[Abracad]

We are in a terrible place. And I just don’t know how to say how I feel. It’s nothing new. There were never any arguments when I was growing up, just unspoken resentments and power battles. And Inhate myself for being the same. I don’t know why - I don’t know how to start the conversation, I don’t know if what I feel is right, I second guess myself constantly. I feel sick.

Has anyone been in the same boat and dealt with it?

Feelings aren’t wrong or right, they just are. So what you feel is right, without question.

The issue is, what actions do you want to take, based on how you feel and what you think?

How long have you been with him? Do you have any ties - marriage, kids together , joint house ?

Yes I feel anxious in his presence as every topic seems loaded and I don't want to go there.

Me too @lottelupin. As a result we just chat politely as if we're strangers at a bus stop. It's so so sad.

I know this too, conflict avoidant, so nothing gets resolved.

Our marriage is a civil friendship. And co-parenting. Very sad about it.