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SISTER75 · 06/10/2019 20:07

I'm finding it a bit difficult to process the situation I'm in. A few weeks ago I had an accident. I wasn't diagnosed straight away but after continues neck and head aches from a fall went back to ane for further assessment. After being scanned I was told that I had broken my neck and was immediately fixed with a hard collar and told to rest and recuperate at home immobilising my head and neck. The Dr told me that I was lucky to have been walking round without any further disability, and that I was lucky to be alive as the injury I sustained is often associated with fatality. It's been two weeks since I've been at home with the necklace. I have no partner to support me. I told my sister over the phone. She lives four hours drive away or two and half hours by train. She was sympathetic on the phone but has offered me no support or suggestion of visit even though she knows I'll be off work for possibly 12 weeks. She doesn't have young children, one is away at uni, another at sixth form. My friends have all sent positive messages, been visiting me and sending me flowers etc. But I feel really upset that my own sibling and her family have done nothing, despite the fact that I always buy gifts and cards for their birthdays/Christmas etc. She likened the situation to a time when her husband had been initially misdiagnosed and had broken his leg. I don't know what to do. It makes me feel really sad but I can't raise i t with her and I also don't want to suggest that she visit as I don't want to be the one making the request.

OP posts:
pallasathena · 06/10/2019 22:26

Have you asked her to help out? I have family members who expect me to drop everything and rush off to them when there's a crisis...but they never openly ask for help...its all passive aggressive pity party /professionally offended type stuff.
ASK!

PaterPower · 07/10/2019 07:40

Agree with PP - if you want help from her ask for it! She might not realise how little support you have and/or might think you want your own space.

How often do you two meet up? Does she make an effort to come and see you (and you to her) normally?

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