Wedding ring

[DressingGown123]

Long time lurker, NC for this
So, newly married, a toddler and a baby. Husband has jokingly taken off his wedding band until I put out...its been 2 days and hiis ring is still on the kitchen table.. He thinks it's funny but obviously I don't. Is sex once a fortnight enough or am I the one being unreasonable. Its not that I don't want sex with him, it's the lack of time and tiredness
What's your opinions?

J

I think that’s an arsehole thing to do to be honest and I wouldn’t be touching him based on that.
Whether sex once a fortnight is enough can’t be answered by anyone else as it’s do individual but there are definitely wrong ways about trying to increase it.

Stand your ground, he’s being a twat.

Take yours off too and refuse to put it back on until he stops being such a dick?

If once a fortnight isnt enough for him then perhaps you can meet somewhere in the middle. If you just got married recently and have a baby and toddler, I imagine the sex wasnt as frequent before the wedding? I do think if you're newly married and dont have a great sex life, you're setting yourselves up for years of unhappy sex. Try and work on it now as there is clearly an issue.

As for the ring- he is being unreasonable. That would piss me off too.

With an actual baby, once a year sounds fine.
But the issue isn't the frequency it's the fact that he thinks he doesn't need to be married if your sex drive doesn't match his - or does he want sex with an unwilling partner? Cause there's a name for that.

I'd follow Ronnie's advice

What he's done with the ring is disgusting and implies some kind of suspension of marriage vows until you "put out". I really don't see the funny side at all. Is he implying you are breaching a contract and so he is exempt from it too, or something? Is his implication that he can cheat while the ring is off?
I would feel as though I was being treated like a concubine or something.
I couldn't be married to a man like that.
I'm so sorry OP.

Tell him for every day he keeps it off he misses a month of blowjobs and watch how quickly he crams it back on his finger!

Imbacile.

That's hilarious 😂
Put it on his knob .

Heard it all now

Talk to him!! Could be a good place to start

As Ronnie said... that is blackmail he is trying on a more serious note. No one should be pressured into it and with two little ones it won't be easy to fit in

If he’s not happy, he ends it. Not be a manipulative twat.

What an insufferable prick. His opinion of you is very, very low.

Well hes being an idiot and it sounds pretty childish.
However, i would not be happy with twice a week and wouldnt be with DH if he had such a low drive. Sounds like you arent compatible sexually. How was it before you got married?

Just talk like grown ups. You’re both being ridiculous to be honest. Sit down and tell him how you feel that he has taken his ring off and linked his commitment with you alongside his frequency of having sex with you. But equally listen to him how he feels about lack of intimacy or sexual closeness to you. What can you both do to work towards a happy and fulfilled relationship? Why are you wanting to dole sex out fortnightly like it’s some kind of chore?

So he's checked out of his wedding vows until you open your legs?

@Jeleste
Once a fortnight - not twice a week.
I'm sure he'd be really happy with that.
Joking aside it is really important to keep the intimacy between a couple when the kids come.
It's so easy to forget about each other when you're busy with the little ones but they need both of you.

Take yours off too and consider divorce
Wow

Put it somewhere he won't find it and then deny all knowledge (with a toddler around, things go missing all the time, don't they?!)

It's an arsehole thing to do, if he actually means it. Has he got a wonky sense of humour generally? I have and I am often told I'm offensive when I really don't mean to be.

He has not jokingly taken off his wedding ring. He's pissed all over you to remind he thinks you are his and there to service his sexual needs. Git.