Exdh is guilt tripping the kids i think

[Winona45]

I've posted before about exdh and manipulation.
I find it hard to see myself because i really do feel permanently damaged by the end of this 25 year relationship.
We separated 14 weeks ago instigated by me.
He has chronic illness and hasnt worked for 15 year's. Quite controlling and negative. It wasnt nice at the end for either of us.
Recently diagnosed with having a paranoid psychosis episode too. So hes no longer at home and we've separated.

He's been seeing the kids roughly once a week when he is able to drive but it depends on how he feels.
Just recently he's really been guilt tripping the children over the lack of calls or texts theyve been making.
He keeps texting and calling them telling them this was all my fault, its what I wanted, he would never have left but i gave up on him.
The last few days hes text and called to say at some point they will have to choose who they want to live with because he's going to try and get his own place. They'll have to make a decision etc.
This is while texting me telling me ive destroyed him, ruined his life, he loved me so much and would never have done this to me etc.

The kids have now today said they dont want to see him today. Eldest (16) is angry, accusing dh of being immature and manipulative. She has politely declined seeing him saying she'll visit tomorrow instead. Shes angry and confused about the position he's putting them in.
Middle child (13) is also upset and worried about him.
He doesn't seem to realise he's pushing them away and achieving the opposite of what he wants!

Hes now distraught and apparently suicidal.
I honestly don't know what to do anymore.

If he is telling you that he is suicidal call the police and report it to them.
Then disengage with him this is classic manipulative behaviour.
I'm sure that someone else will be along soon to offer better advice about your DC than I can

Tell the children not to respond to him call the police if he has threatened suicide

You might want to tell the kids that he is unhappy and unhappy people spread it around sometimes unless they are old enough to be told daddy is acting like a tit?

If he is telling your children that he is suicidal, you need to tell the police, and then i personally would block him on the kids' phones. They do NOT need to have a hotline to that in their possession. You can unblock him when this acute episode is over.

Your children shouldn't have that inflicted on them by their father. I wouldn't dream of doing that to mine in those circumstances. He needs to think about why they don't want to see him and realise it's his behaviour that's driving them away.

If he's saying he suicidal (although I imagine he isn't and it's just another way to manipulate you) id call the police and let them know. Let them go and do a welfare check.