He is 7 years older than his online profile

[SingleSal]

Hi Ladies I’ve been dating a great guy for a few months now and It’s been great.

We met online so obviously I was aware of his age from his profile, we have never discussed it.
I found out last night that he is actually 7 years older than his profile, I saw it on his driving license.
I’m really shocked, firstly 7 years is a big fib but also upto now he has been the most honest and trustworthy guy I’ve met online.
How do you think I should deal with this?

Agree with AlwaysOnAbloodyDiet

Seven years doesn't matter as an age difference but the reason for the lie might.

The actual 7 years isn’t a big deal, but it would tell me that he’s someone prepared to lie to get what he wants. Not for me.

I was once talking to a man online who was 9 years older than me from his profile. We spoke a lot about his job etc and I did some digging around and managed to discover he was actually 13 years older than me. I'm almost positive that he said he was younger because it was already a large age gap but for me it was a deal breaker. Perhaps had we met up he might have come clean but seriously what need is there to lie about age?
If someone can lie so easily over the small stuff then they probably have no problem lying about the bigger stuff.
It would be a red flag for me I'm afraid.

Very common I’m afraid. When i was doing old there were plenty of ‘40’ something women who had either had very hard lives or were in fact 50 something. I went on a date with someone who claimed to be 40 and couldn’t have been much under mid 50’s

It's would be nice if ages were removed from dating sites.
You meet someone in real life. You don't know how old they are. You talk and get to know each other a little and you find out each other's ages; it may or may not matter but at least you didn't just look at a number and think x years. Next.

Ages are on the site for a reason though. Some people are perhaps keen to have children. If a guy who wants kids then thinks a woman is in her 30s when, in fact, she is later forties then that isn't fair.
People will always lie of course and I've never understood why most of the time.
I have my max age limit for messages set to 50 but I'm pretty sure a lot of the guys who are 'just under 50' are in fact over 50 and know they won't be able to message.
I find it a bit sad, just be honest.

If he had put his real age online would you have still contacted him? A lot of people just discard otherwise lovely people because of a number. That's why he did it. It doesn't mean he's untrustworthy just because he gave you the wrong age before he knew you.

Bollocks. Men and women both have equal veto on ages that they are willing to accept. Men can specify younger women and the younger women who specify they are interested in that age range can contact them.

Theres no reason to lie other than to deceive. Its not your job to go around forcibly "educating" women like some sort of teenager who's strayed from the good path of accepting any man who fucking wants a go.

If you want the kind of thing where you base the whole thing on fantasy or lies join some swinging sites. My partner and I regularly lie about our ages, names, life style. Because that's what we go out looking for.

You dont go looking for people you KNOW want something you dont and force your way in.

Lie to him.

See how it goes.

Tell him you're 10 years older than your profile.

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I think you don't really care so much, and are already defending him.

If his actual age doesnt really matter to you, then go for it. I would be a bit wary though - is he lying about anything else? If everything else is fine, i would be tempted just to take the piss out of him over it for a while, and then move on.

That’s nothing - I once almost went on a date with a guy who said he was 55, but my suspicions were raised (his photo looked a bit old), and when I did some digging it turned out he was actually 77. Yep, he lied by a whole 23 years. And good god he looked his age too.

Needless to say I didn’t meet him. Seven years isn’t a huge crime, although annoying if that wasn’t what you were looking for. I’d be worried if he didn’t own up to it when confronted.

I was recently talking to a guy on OLD and we arranged to meet up the following week.
He had a very unusual username and an
Unusual spelling of his first name.
I did a bit of digging and found out ( from his profile on Companies House ) he was 5 years older than his OLD profile stated which put him at 10 years older than me (I'm 52) so I asked him if he was really the age on his OLD profile, he said yes. I finished things with him.

Ive had this happen before though. I got married when I was 39 and found out 2 years later my husband was only 30!

I'm a professional genealogist. This will never happen to me :)

I've used companies house to find out real ages too!

Meh, he is dishonest OP, there isn't really any getting around it. He is lying to you as he knows you think he is younger than he is and is embarrassing himself trying to cover up the lie when out to keep it up. An honest person wouldn't lie in the first place, let alone keep it up at all costs.

I don't think I could find a man lying about his age in the hope of finding a younger woman to shag, that attractive tbh- it's too pathetic. Watching him stutter over his lie in public would have been too much embarrassment also.

It's not a good start to the relationship is it, he's kicked it off lying, continues to hide it from you, you know and aren't saying anything. I'd have asked why he has lied the minute I found out rather than excuse it and set the precedent. He must think you're daft to fall for it surely