40th Birthday

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It’s my wife’s 40th coming up but we have a 3 month old breastfeeding baby (4months at birthday). We also have a 5 year old.

So I’m stuck for ideas to make it special while also allowing for problems of breastfeeding at a moments notice!

Don’t mind a modest spend but money a bit tight at them moment.

One idea is a IOU note for her favourite hotel in her favourite city in a year or so’s time without the kids, relying on Grandparents to take the children.

Grandparents don’t live locally.

So what ideas can the hive mind come up with. Need her to know she’s appreciated and loved and make her feel special. But how?

Alcohol is out due to feeding.
Too much chocolate/cake etc doesn’t go down well because she’s trying hard to get pre baby body back.
Vouchers for clothes feels like a cop out plus it’s a 40th so either needs to be something keepable or a memorable.

So help with 2 things, present and memorable 40th weekend.

Can you not go out and celebrate and have a nice day out somewhere as a family, then write her the IOU?
I know I always appreciate when my other half plans something nice for us all to do.
Every lady is different in what they like as gifts, but for me it would be jewellery. Does she have an eternity ring yet? My partner bought me one for a special birthday not long after we had a baby and I treasure it

She can still share a bottle of champagne without any worries of it affecting her breastmilk.

We went to lovely self-catering cabins at 5 months, and it would be a great chance depending where you went for her to go to a spa for an hour or so and you look out for kiddie. She might love that time alone.

Or look after baby and send her shopping.

Or go for a weekend at grandparents and go out for a really romantic evening.

Oh and do cake/chocolate as well. Eat it yourself if you have to. But the message if you don't do a 40th birthday cake???? You want to give the message that her 40th is really important to you, yeah? At the very least that means cake.

A nice weekend away the 4 of you & make sure she has a rest - maybe a spa and just bring her the baby when he needs feeding - if she feeds him then you take both the kids for a nice walk she should easily get 1 1/2 hours to herself to rest.

I got a necklace with my boys names on it for my birthday & I’m going to wear it when I get back to work - also you can have jewellery made out of breast milk - ask her if she’s like that.

Does it have to be a surprise? Could you ask her what she would like to do for a special weekend? i.e. Would she like friends over for a relaxed evening/weekend away/meal out.
I wouldn't like my DH to just go ahead and arrange something with a 4mth baby but then I'd also tell him that so he knew in advance.
Has your DW given any clues?

Or family photoshoot?

Give her a lie in in the morning. Literally only take the baby for feeding then leave her be. Run her a Bath with some gorgeous (Jo Malone?) bath oil. Breakfast with you all, made by the 5 year old and a hand made card. Family lunch at a nice pub with the four of you and any other family (parents/ siblings), home for birthday cake and give her the IOU for hotel night away next year plus some lovely flowers. Invite a few of her girlfriend over for some bubbly (she can have a few glasses and still breastfeed), then be on duty ALL night, literally just bringing the baby for feeding and you settle baby after. Another lie in next morning. I would have loved that!

Family photoshoot is a lovely idea as pop said, maybe with make up beforehand? Always nice to have someone do that if you're not very good at it (I'm not so would appreciate that) - personal shopper to choose an outfit the day before? That she can then wear if you have friends round if that would suit your lifestyles?

Or if you want to get a memorable gift theres places that do fingerprints on keyrings/necklaces/bracelets etc and you can get the children's fingerprints. I always wanted one of those!

Not on the high street website is lovely for thoughtful gifts.

I've just bought myself a necklace with my daughters birth stones on it, was £28. Happy to share website.
I'm 40 in two weeks and looking fwd to time with my husband he's booked a wknd away so your iou would be great!

Id go to a nice hotel for the weekend lots of then do a free kids club so your 5yr old would be sorted for a few hours and you could book spa treatments for your wife look on itison or groupon for deals