Courage to get through divorcing EA husband

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My marriage has been bad for nearly a decade and I’m now at the end of the road. I no longer fear being on my own or think that I don’t deserve better. But I am scared when I think how I will get through the next few months during the divorce process.

The verbal abuse is stepping up towards me and my daughter. I am worried about leaving her alone with him.

We had a huge argument this morning about something minor which escalated into the timing of when he will leave and the divorce process. He wants a large financial settlement, I can’t afford it. And he threatened me with violence if I don’t pay him. He will expect me to borrow the money or sell my house if I have to.

And I’m also worried about my DD. She adores her father and he’s very good with her in terms of helping her with her homework etc.

I’m so anxious and stressed that my heart is racing and I feel like I have pins and needles all down my arms.

Has anyone got any advice for how to cope? I don’t have any family anywhere near me and no close friends locally that I can speak to.

Womens Aid and the Rights of Women organisations can help you here if you have not contacted them already.

What about your Solicitor; is this person well versed in the dealings of abusive and controlling men?. I would not leave your DD alone with him going forward and contact needs to be supervised in a contact centre. No informal arrangements should be made.

Would start to properly document this and call the police re his threat of violence towards you.

He isn't a good father at all you need to get that out of your head you need to protect your Dd go to your solicitor and tell them what he said did. I think going along with what he says for now might keep you safe but you need away from him asap. Your dd will eventually thank you for it.