Anyone done the friends thing first?

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I've met someone in my professional life that I'm really drawn to and fancy the pants off. Definite chemistry there but I know nothing can happen for quite a while. Can't really say for how long but definitely not very near future.

I've been OLD for years and always wanted to meet someone naturally, and I always seem to fancy people that I can't have!

Now I feel like I've met someone, sparks, butterflies the lot.

He's going to an event this weekend. I really want to go but I never go anywhere like that on my own.

Was thinking of friendship first but think I'd die of anticipation...I've never been friends first and eventually had a relationship with someone.

Not sure what advice anyone could give really just needed to get it out! When I fall, I fall hard!

What's stopping you going to this event at the weekend? At least by going, you can establish whether he's available before losing your heart to him.

Me and my wife weren't friends first, we knew each other for a long time, as she was had the same friends and to be honest, she didn't like me and I didn't really say much to her as I picked up the vibe she didn't like me.

Well, here we are after 20 years married and two lovely boys and it's the best thing I ever did. New Year's Eve 1997 is one I will never forget!

My hubby and I were friends for 7 years before we got together. Both dating different people and the time was never right. I think being friends first was a great foundation for our relationship. Been together 13 years now

Some lovely stories there. Thanks, you never know what the future holds!

Well telling him will only result in two outcomes won’t it?

1. He likes you too, there’s potential for the future, you end up together, he respects you and feels good about himself that someone like you is interested

1. He’s not interested and it saves you from building hope up and wasting time on false hope

Cherrypicker01 that’s exactly what would happen.
But if OP cannot approach him this way because it would be inappropriate , then best to not go down that route.
For example, if OP is a victim of crime and the man is a police representative. Or OP is a psychologist and the man is a client. It would put the man in a very uncomfortable situation regardless of his feelings or it can show OP as very unprofessional and potentially loose her job.