He is always angry when I meet my best friend

[NickyC123]

I don’t go out much. I have always been faithful. I am always there for him and the children. I have a good female friend who often comes to our house socially and we all spend fine together however if I go to her house on my own or we meet and have an evening out my partner is horrid. Annoyed, confrontational, really quite unpleasant. No interest in whether I have had a nice evening, not pleased I have had an opportunity to see my friend. Nothing but negativity and being off. It is upsetting. Does anyone else experience this?

It sounds like he doesn't trust you at all. I'm assuming you don't go out with anyone else and are generally concentrating on him and the family. His behaviour is unreasonable and controlling, designed to make it so that you stop seeing your friend.

This is classic controlling, abusive behaviour. He doesn't want anyone else having influence in your life, and he views your friendship with her as a threat to his dominance. I suggest you run for your life because this will only get worse.

That's not normal or acceptable behaviour OP. He's trying to control who you spend time with. I'm guessing that he will continue to act like this hoping that you decide it's too much hassle to see your friend, then he will have you right where he wants you. It's a massive red flag. Coercive control is a type of abuse.

Some partners can get a bit possessive, even with same sex friends. Do you think that could be what this is?

Total red flag behaviour. What's he like as a partner?

When my DW goes to see friends I am very happy about it and get everything sorted at home. She doesn't do it too often.

Because I love her and like seeing her nurture friendships.

Is there some drip feed about your friend being terrible ?

Does he go out to see his friends?
What's his perception of your friend?

My ex used to be like this. Even if I went to see family. He would try and start a row before I went out and then storm off so I couldn’t go as he’d left the DC with me. Or if I went and took DC with me I would get the silent treatment when I came home. Sometimes he would have had people over while I was out (no problem with that) he would leave their glasses and any dishes they used sitting out to make sure I knew, but he would refuse to tell me who. Tell me it was none of my business. Basically any time I spent time with anyone but him it resulted in me feeling like I’d done something wrong.

Thankfully he is an ex.

do you live together. could you move out. this is controlling. he is trying to stop you seeing her so you have no support when his abuse gets worse.

this is very concerning.
see what others have written above.
this in coercive control, a form of abuse. it will get worse.
get out now. while you can. really. read up on it.
go out more and make plans for your escape, but do not tell him.

that is when they get most dangerous.
make good your escape. do not discuss, argue, reveal anything to him. go. flee. it will then get better. you will feel better, and from a distance begin to see the reality of this situation that you have been entangled in. you can cut yourself free. just don't let him know that you are on to him. you cannot reform him. you need to get out.

OP, this is so wrong!

My husband nags me to contact my old university friend, and when we have girlie weekends away he encourages me to have fun.

I have an annual meet-up with old school friends, my husband treats it as a given, he cooks dinner that night.